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'''Civility''' is a rule here on Misplaced Pages. Where ''incivility'' here is defined as ''behavior that causes an atmosphere of animosity, disrespect, ] and ],'' the '''Civility rule''' states that people must act with civility toward one another.
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'''Civility''' is part of Misplaced Pages's ] and one of its ]. Stated simply, {{em|editors should always treat each other with consideration and respect}}. They should focus on improving the encyclopedia while maintaining a pleasant editing environment by behaving politely, calmly and reasonably, even during heated debates.
Our ] has by experience developed an informal hierarchy of ] &mdash; the first being ]. The second demands a reasonable degree of '''civility''' towards others. Even if "]" is just an informal rule, its the only term that can apply, and it's the only reasonable way to delimit acceptable conduct from the unacceptable. We can't always expect people to ], honor, obey, or even '''respect''' another. But we have every right to demand '''civility'''.


]'s civility expectations apply to all editors during all interactions on Misplaced Pages, including discussions at user and article ], in ], and in any other discussion with or about fellow ].
== The Problem ==
Misplaced Pages as a whole is not especially respectful of other contributors. This directly affects the quality of the community experience at Misplaced Pages. By hurting the community, the quality of articles is affected as well.


== Cooperation and civility ==
=== Examples ===
]
Petty examples that contribute to an uncivil environment:
Differences of opinion are inevitable in a collaborative project. When discussing these differences, some editors can seem unnecessarily harsh, while simply trying to be forthright. Other editors may seem oversensitive when their views are challenged. Faceless written words on talk pages and in edit summaries do not fully transmit the nuances of verbal conversation, sometimes leading to misinterpretation of an editor's comments. An uncivil remark can escalate spirited discussion into a personal argument that no longer focuses objectively on the problem at hand. Such exchanges waste our efforts and undermine a positive, productive working environment. Resolve differences of opinion through civil discussion; disagree without being disagreeable. Discussion of other editors should be limited to polite discourse about their actions.


Editors are expected to be reasonably ], to refrain from making ], to work within the scope of ], and to be responsive to ] questions. Try to treat your fellow editors as respected colleagues with whom you are working on an important project. Be especially welcoming and patient towards ] who contribute constructively, but politely discourage non-constructive newcomers.
* Use of profanity
* Judgemental tone in edit comments ("fixed sloppy spelling", "snipped rambling crap")
* Belittling contributors because of their language skills or word choice
* Ill-considered accusations of impropriety of one kind or another


=== Assume good faith ===
More serious examples include:
The ] guideline states that unless there is strong evidence to the contrary, editors should assume that others are trying to help, not hurt the project.
* Personal attacks
* Lies or attempts to slander or discredit
* Defacement of personal pages
* Calls for bans
* Racial, ethnic, and religious slurs (these are often unclear)


The guideline does not require that editors continue to assume good faith in the presence of obvious evidence of intentional wrongdoing. However, do not assume there is more misconduct than evidence supports. Given equally plausible interpretations of the evidence, choose the most positive one.
===Rewrite:===
Incivility happens for example when you are quietly creating a new page, and another user tells you, "If you're going to write a pointless page, you could spell check it."
Escalation occurs when you answer him to, "Mind your own business."


=== Apologising: It's OK to say sorry ===
This style of interaction between Wikipedians drives away contributors, distracts others from more important matters, and weakens the entire community.
{{seealso|Misplaced Pages:Apology}}
Disputes, and even misunderstandings, can lead to situations in which one party feels injured by the other. There's no loss of face in apologising. We all make mistakes, we all say the odd hurtful thing, we all have bad days and bad moments. If you have a sneaky feeling you owe someone an ], offer the apology. Apologising does not hurt you.


Remember, though, that you cannot ''demand'' an apology from anyone else. It will only get their back up and make it either less likely to happen, or to be totally insincere if you do get an apology. Never be too proud to make the first move when it comes to saying sorry. That kind of "pride" is destructive. An apology provides the opportunity for a fresh start, and can clear the air when one person's perceived incivility has offended another.
==When and why does it happen?==


=== Different places, different atmospheres ===
*In case of an edit war, when people support different opinions, or for power sharing.
{{See also|Help:Talk pages|Misplaced Pages:Talk page guidelines}}
*When the community grows big. An editor does not know all the others, he may not perceive their individual importance in the project, so do not feel like preserving bonds that do not exist. Reputation does not count so much.
Article talk pages should be, on the whole, considered to be professional workspaces. They are places to collaborate on how to improve the article, and to discuss the article (though it's OK for conversations to wander into related areas, or go more into depth than the article does, as that helps with research and gives ideas on improvement).
*Sometimes, a specifically impolite outsider unfortunately gets in the project


While an ] may have a more informal atmosphere than article talk pages, ] still applies everywhere, including there. Note that, in general, the editor may ] there at their discretion.
Most of the time, insults, in particular, are used in the heat of the conflict. They are essentially a way to wind up. It might be mentioned that the offender often regrets having used such words afterwards. Which in itself is a reason to remove the offending words.


=== Edit summary dos and don'ts ===
In other cases, the offender is doing it on purpose, to distract his opponent from the issue at stake, or to drive him out of the article or out of the project, or to push him to commit an even greater breach in civility (which might result in ostracism or banning). In those cases, it is far less likely that the offender will have any regrets and apologize.
{{Policy shortcut|WP:ESDOS|WP:ESDONTS}}
{{seealso|Help:Edit summary#Always provide an edit summary|Help:Edit summary#How to write an edit summary}}
Review your edit summaries before saving your edits. Remember you cannot go back and change them.


Here is a list of tips about edit summaries:
It might be mentioned that some editors deliberately push other editors to a breach of civility, without committing one themselves.


*Be clear about what you did, so that other editors can assess your changes accurately.
==Why is it bad?==
*Use neutral language.
*Remain calm.
*Don't make snide comments.
*Don't make ] about editors.
*Don't be aggressive.


== No personal attacks or harassment ==
*because it makes people unhappy, resulting in discouragement and departure.
{{Main|Misplaced Pages:No personal attacks|Misplaced Pages:Harassment}}
*because it makes people angry, resulting in non-constructive or even uncivil behavior themselves, further escalating the level of incivility.
{{seealso|Misplaced Pages:Casting aspersions}}
*because people lose good faith, resulting in reduced ability to resolve the current or following conflict.


Editors are expected to not personally attack or harass other editors. This applies equally to all: it is as unacceptable to attack an editor who has a history of foolish or boorish behaviour, or even one who has been subject to disciplinary action by the Arbitration Committee, as it is to attack any other. Misplaced Pages encourages a positive online community: people make mistakes, but they are encouraged to learn from them and change their ways. Personal attacks and harassment are contrary to this spirit, ] to the work of building an encyclopedia, and editors engaging in such behaviour, may be ], including, but not limited to ].
== General suggestions ==


== Incivility ==
===Preventing uncivil comments to enter the Misplaced Pages sphere===
{{Policy shortcut|WP:UNCIVIL}}
{{quotebox|quote=Civility is to human nature what warmth is to wax.|author=]<ref>{{cite book|author=]|title=]|publisher=Weidenfeld & Nicolson|year=2001|page=13}}</ref>}}
Incivility consists of ], ] and disrespectful comments. Especially when done in an aggressive manner, these often alienate editors and disrupt the project through unproductive stressors and conflict. While a few minor incidents of incivility that no one complains about are not necessarily a concern, a continuing pattern of incivility is unacceptable. In cases of repeated ] or egregious personal attacks, then the offender may be ]. Even a single act of severe incivility could result in a block, such as a single episode of extreme ] or ] directed at another contributor, or a threat against another person.


In general, ''be understanding and non-retaliatory in dealing with incivility''. If others are uncivil, do not respond the same way. Consider ignoring isolated examples of incivility, and simply moving forward with the content issue. If necessary, point out gently that you think the comment might be considered uncivil and make it clear that you want to move on and focus on the content issue. Bear in mind that the editor may not have thought they were being uncivil; Misplaced Pages is edited by people from many different backgrounds, and standards vary. Take things to dispute resolution (see ]) only if there is an ongoing problem that you cannot resolve.
*prevent edit war and conflict of Wikipedians (''constraints set by the project itself. Community answer essentially'').
*preventing the access of Misplaced Pages to some class of people more likely to be offensive (''reduce openness'').
*force delays between answers to give time to editors to recover and avoid further escalation of conflict (''protect pages, or temporary blocks of editors in case of conflict'').


This policy is not a weapon to use against other contributors. To insist that an editor be ] for an isolated, minor incident, to repeatedly bring up past incivility after an individual has changed their approach, or to treat constructive criticism as an attack, is in itself potentially disruptive, and may result in warnings or even blocks if repeated.
*offer feedback (''praise the ones who did not answer to incivility with incivility themselves'')
*play on negative feedback (''let or suggest an editor in conflict to leave Misplaced Pages, whether or not he is the offender, to reduce level of conflict'')
*apply peer pressure (''voice displeasure each time uncivil words are used'')
*solve the root of the conflict between the offender and the editor or the community. Or find a compromise.


=== Identifying incivility ===
*block a user from editing specific pages which often trigger violence
{{Policy shortcut|WP:IDENTIFYUNCIVIL|WP:IUC}}
*set a new rule based on word usage, that will allow temporary blocking or banning an editor using them more than a certain number of times. Enforce it.
It is sometimes difficult to make a hard-and-fast judgement of what is uncivil and what is not. Editors should take into account factors such as ({{rn|i}}) the intensity and context of the language/behaviour; ({{rn|ii}}) whether the behaviour has occurred on a single occasion, or is occasional or regular; ({{rn|iii}}) whether a request has already been made to stop the behaviour, and whether that request is recent; ({{rn|iv}}) whether the behaviour has been provoked; and ({{rn|v}}) the extent to which the behaviour of others needs to be treated at the same time.
*request the use of real names to force editors to take responsibility of their behavior (''generally considered undesirable on Misplaced Pages'')
*filter mails by the offender, or filter mail based on some key words, and reject an email to the mailing list when offending


The following behaviours can contribute to an uncivil environment:
*consider that uncivil words can't be avoided in such a project, and accept their existence.


<ol>
===Reducing the impact===
<li>'''Direct rudeness'''
<ol type="a">
<li>], insults, name-calling, gross ] or indecent suggestions</li>
<li>], including racial, ethnic, sexual, disability-related, gender-related and religious slurs, and derogatory references to groups such as social classes or nationalities</li>
<li>{{anchor|ICA}}{{shortcut compact|WP:ICA}} ill-considered accusations of impropriety</li>
<li>belittling a fellow editor, including the use of judgemental edit summaries or talk-page posts (e.g. "that is the stupidest thing I have ever seen", "snipped crap")</li>
</ol>
<li>'''Other uncivil behaviours'''
<ol type="a">
<li>] or ]: deliberately pushing others to the point of breaching civility even if not seeming to commit such a breach themselves. All editors are responsible for their own actions in cases of baiting; a user who is baited is not excused by that if they attack in response, and a user who baits is not excused from their actions by the fact that the bait may be taken.</li>
<li>], including ], bullying, personal or ], ], repeated email or user space postings</li>
<li>]</li>
<li>lying</li>
<li>quoting another editor ] to give the impression they meant something they did not.</li>
</ol>
</li>
</ol>
In addition, lack of care when applying other policies can lead to conflict and stress. For instance, referring to a user's good-faith edits as ] may lead to them feeling unfairly attacked. Use your best judgement, and be ready to apologize if you turn out to be wrong.


=== Avoiding incivility ===
*compensate each uncivil comment by providing a soothing or constructive comment
{{shortcut|WP:AVOIDUNCIVIL}}
Incivility&nbsp;– or the appearance of incivility&nbsp;– typically arises from heated content disputes.
* ''Explain yourself''. Insufficient ] for edits can be perceived as uncivil. Use good edit summaries, and use the talk page if the edit summary does not provide enough space or if a more substantive debate is likely to be needed.
* ''Be careful with user warning templates''. Be careful about issuing ] to editors you're currently involved in a dispute with, and exercise caution when using templated messages for newcomers (see ]). Consider using a personal message instead of, or in addition to, the templated message.
* ''Try not to get too intense''. Passion can be misread as aggression, so take great care to avoid the appearance of being heavy-handed or bossy. Nobody likes to be ''bossed about'' by an editor who appears to believe that they are "superior"; nobody likes a bully.
* ''Avoid editing while you're in a bad mood.'' It {{em|does}} spill over. (See ] and ])
* ''Take a real-life check''. Disengage by ''two'' steps to assess what you're about to say (or have just said). Asking yourself "How would I feel if someone said that to me?" is often not enough; many people can just brush things off. To get a better perspective, ask yourself: "How would I feel if someone said that to someone I love who ''cannot'' just 'brush it off'?" If you would find that unacceptable, then ''do not say it''. And, if you have already said it, ] and apologise.
* ''Be professional''. Just because we are online and unpaid does not mean we can behave badly to each other. People working together in a newspaper office are not supposed to get into punch-ups in the newsroom because they disagree about how something is worded or whose turn it is to make the coffee. Nor are volunteers working at the animal rescue centre allowed to start screaming at each other over who left ferrets in the filing cabinet or the corn snake in the cutlery drawer. In fact, there's pretty much nowhere in this world where people working together to do something good are allowed to get into fist-fights, shouting matches, hair-pulling or name-calling; the same principle applies here.
* ''Avoid name-calling''. Someone may very well be an idiot, but telling them so is neither going to increase their intelligence nor improve your ability to communicate with them.
* ''Avoid condescension''. No matter how frustrated you are, do <strong>not</strong> tell people to "grow up" or include any language along the lines of "if this were kindergarten" in your messages.
* ''Avoid appearing to ridicule another editor's comment''. Even if you see the comment as ridiculous, they very probably don't, and expressing ridicule is likely only to offend and antagonise, rather than helping.
* ''Be careful with edit summaries''. They are relatively short comments and thus potentially subject to misinterpretation or oversimplification. They cannot be changed after pressing "Save", and are often written in haste, particularly in stressful situations. Remember to ], especially when things are getting heated; to avoid personal comments about any editors you have disputes with; and to use the talk page to further explain your view of the situation.


=== Being right is not enough ===
*Do not answer offensive comments. Forget about them. Forgive. Do not escalate.(''individual answer'')
{{shortcut|WP:BRINE}}
*Make as if the offender does not exist. Set a wall between the offender and the community.
Incivility is not excused on the grounds that the editor who violated those expectations has the "correct" position on an underlying substantive dispute or the interpretation of policies and guidelines within those disputes. Civility is expected of all editors; incivility is harmful to the functioning of the project irrespective of the merits of an underlying dispute.<ref>Originally formulated by the ] in ].</ref>
*Revert edits with a veil of invisibility (&bot=1) to reduce the impact of the offensive words when made in comment box


=== Dealing with incivility ===
*consider that uncivil words can't be avoided in such a project, and accept their existence.
{{see also|Misplaced Pages:Responding to incivility}}
{{shortcut|WP:DEALWITHINCIVIL}}
# First of all, consider whether you and the other editor may simply have misunderstood each other. Clarify, and ask for clarification.
# Consider the possibility that something you said or did wrongly provoked a defensive, irritated or fed-up response. Be prepared to apologise for anything which you could/should have done better. (].)
#*However, this does not excuse incivility.
# Even if you're offended, be as ''calm and reasonable'' as possible in your response. Until there is clear evidence to the contrary, assume that the offense was unintended.
# Explain, clearly but kindly, exactly what you felt was uncivil. Sometimes it helps to let the other editor know how their edit made ''you'' feel. Editors are not mind-readers. (''"That made me feel..."'' is much less likely to incite more anger or resentment than ''"Your post was..."'')
# Ask them to ] an uncivil comment, or to re-word it calmly and neutrally.
# No matter how much you're being provoked, resist the temptation to snap back. It never works; it just makes things worse. Strive to become ].
# If none of this is working, and the other person is not damaging the project or being uncivil or unkind to other editors, either walk away or request ] from uninvolved editors.
# When the other editor needs to be stopped in their tracks to avoid causing serious disruption or needs a fast and strong wake-up call, file a report at the ]. Bear in mind the risk of being hoist by your own ] if you yourself are guilty of policy violations. Please also read the ] first.


===Removing uncivil comments=== === Removing uncivil comments ===
{{Policy shortcut|WP:REMOVEUNCIVIL|WP:RUC}}
{{anchor|Removal of uncivil comments}}
{{seealso|Misplaced Pages:Talk page guidelines|Misplaced Pages:No personal attacks#Removal of personal attacks}}


Where the uncivil comment is yours, any of these options will help reduce the impact:
*striking offensive words or replacing them by milder ones on talk pages (''often seen as controversial, as it is refactoring other people words'')
*removing offensive comments on talk pages (''they stay in the history however, anyone can find them back or refer to them later on'')
*revert an edit with &bot=1, so that the edit made by the offender appears invisible in recent change (''do-able on IP contributions, require technical help for logged-in user'')
*deleting entirely and permanently an edit made by the offender (''require technical help'')
*delete permanently an offensive comment made on the mailing lists (''require technical help'')
*replace a comment made in a comment box by another comment less offensive (''require technical help'')


* Where someone is unintentionally offended at your comment, calmly explain what you meant.
== Management of incivility during the mediation process ==
* ] out (using &lt;s&gt;<s>HTML strikeout tags</s>&lt;/s&gt;), to show, publicly, that you withdraw the comment.
* Quietly remove it, or rewrite the comment to be more civil&nbsp;– Usually only a good idea if you think better of it before anyone objected to it. If someone has already reacted, you should acknowledge the change in a quick comment after the changed text, for instance, ''Comment removed by author''.
* Simply apologise. This option never hurts, and can be combined well with any of the others. Even if you feel the thrust of your words is true, or that they are misunderstanding what you meant, you can still apologise.


In the event of rudeness or incivility on the part of another editor, it may be appropriate to discuss the offending words with that editor, and to request that editor to change that specific wording. Some care is necessary, however, so as not to further inflame the situation. It is not normally appropriate to edit or remove another editor's comment. Exceptions include to remove obvious ] or ], or if the comment is on your own user talk page. Derogatory comments about another contributor may be removed by any editor.
Parties sometimes attempt to negotiate an agreement while one party is not ready. For example, if the ] is a specific point in an article, ] may be impaired if discussion is still clouded by an uncivil exchange between both parties. It is best to clear up that issue as soon as possible, so disputants can regain their wit.


===Explain incivility=== === Dispute resolution ===
{{seealso|WP:CONDUCTDISPUTE{{!}}Misplaced Pages:Dispute resolution § Resolving user conduct disputes}}
Some editors are badly shaken by the use of uncivil words toward themselves, and can't focus on the source of the conflict itself. It may help to point out to them why unpleasant words were used.
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In a case of ongoing incivility, first decide if anything needs to be done. Confronting someone over a minor incident&nbsp;– particularly if it turns out that you misinterpreted what they meant&nbsp;– may produce more stress and drama than the incident itself. Consider your own behaviour, and, if you find you have been uncivil, ] to them instead.
The offended may realise the words were not always meant literally, and could decide the forgive and forget them.


In escalating order of seriousness, here are the venues you may use for ] if the relevant page's talk page is insufficient:
It might be beneficial to point out at breaches of civility even when done on purpose to hurt, as it might help the disputant to refocus on the issue (''controversial'').
# ]. If some action is necessary, first consider discussing it on that user's talk page. Be careful not to escalate the situation, and politely explain your objection. You may also wish to include a ] of the specific uncivil statement. If you are in active dispute with the user, consider offering an ] to them instead.
# ]. The forum itself is in general rather used to request input from an uninvolved editor regarding content disputes. For conduct disputes, you may try advertising the issue with the relevant link in its talk page but without discussing it there.
# ] (DRN). Similar to Third Opinion, it deals only with content disputes but in a highly moderated format. For conduct disputes, you may try advertising the issue with the relevant link in its talk page but without discussing it there.
# ]. If discussions with the editor fail to resolve the issue, you may ] to evaluate the conduct of the user, specially if the conduct damages Misplaced Pages unduly, is against policy and affects you or others very much. But be aware that ] will also be scrutinized.
# ]. The Administrators' noticeboard is intended to report and discuss severe incidents of misconduct that require intervention by ] and experienced editors.
# The last step<em>{{nobr|{{emdash}}only}} when other avenues have been tried and {{nobr|failed{{emdash}}}}</em>is the ]. It is the final binding decision-maker primarily for serious conduct disputes the community has been unable to resolve. It scrutinises all sides involved in the dispute and creates binding resolutions. But it may accept or decline any matter at its sole discretion.


=== Blocking for incivility ===
{{seealso|WP:CDB|l1=Blocking policy § Cool-down blocks}}
Blocking for incivility is possible when incivility causes serious ]. However, the civility policy is <em>not</em> intended to be used as a weapon and blocking should not be the first option in most cases.
# Be sure to take into account all the relevant history. Avoid snap judgments without acquainting yourself with the background to any situation.
# Think very hard of the possible merits of <em>all</em> other avenues of approach before you take action. Sanctions for civility violations should only happen when nothing else would do. Poorly considered civility blocks have at times worsened disputes and increased disruption. Remember that sanctions may be more applicable under another heading (disruption, ], ], or ])
# Civility blocks should be for obvious and uncontentious reasons, because an editor has stepped over the line in a manner nearly all editors can see. In cases where you believe that taking admin action against someone who was uncivil might be contentious, it is expected that discussion will be opened on the matter, via ], before any admin action is taken. Benefits derived from long or controversial civility blocks should be weighed against the potential for disruption caused by block reviews, and unblock requests.<ref>Administrators should try to follow ]: when given a choice between several ways of dealing with a problem, pick the one that generates the least drama.</ref>
# Users should be clearly warned, in most circumstances, before being blocked for incivility, and should be allowed sufficient time to retract, reword or explain uncivil comments. Even experienced contributors should not be blocked without warning. Exceptions to this may include users who make egregious violations or threats, or who have received multiple warnings or blocks.


Immediate blocking is generally reserved for cases of <strong>major</strong> incivility, where incivility rises to the level of clear disruption, personal attacks, harassment or ]. As with other blocks, civility blocks should be preventive and ].<ref>" law and its fulfilment, namely punishment, are essentially directed to the ''future'', not to the ''past''. This distinguishes ''punishment'' from ''revenge''; for the motives which instigate the latter are solely concerned with what has happened, and thus with the past as such. All requital of wrong by the infliction of pain, without any aim for the future, is revenge, and can have no other end than consolation for the suffering one has borne by the sight of the suffering one has inflicted upon another. This is wickedness and cruelty, and cannot be morally justified."&nbsp;—] (1883). '''', Vol. I, § 62.</ref>
===Rephrasing disputants comments===
During the mediation process, a third neutral party is in contact with both disputants, and ensuring communication between them both.


== Emergency situations ==
It is the mediator role to promote reasonable discussion between the two disputants. Thus, beneficial to remove incivilities voiced by UserA, in rephrasing his comment to UserB.
{{See also|Misplaced Pages:No legal threats|Misplaced Pages:Oversight}}
Hateful speech, legal threats, and other urgent incidents should be reported at the ].


A special case is ], that is, revealing ] about another editor that they have not revealed themselves and probably do not want known, such as their name, phone number or address. These should be immediately reverted, then an ] should ] to remove the information from the edit history, so that it cannot be found by anyone else later. This applies ''whether or not the information is correct'', as to confirm the information is incorrect by treating it any differently gives the outer useful information. ] has full information.
:For example, if UserA and UserB are flaming each other, by e-mail through a mediator, it might be best if the middleman turns "''I refuse to allow Neo-Nazi apologetics to infest the Misplaced Pages''" to "''UserA is concerned that you may be giving too much prominence to a certain view.''"


<em>{{warnsign|Threats of violence or suicide should be reported immediately.}}</em> See ].
===Rephrasing flames publicly exchanged before or during the mediation process===
It might be beneficial that at the end of the mediation process, the mediator suggests that the disputants come over the agreement to remove incivilites left in user and article talk pages. The editors might agree to delete a page uniquely created to flame the other, and/or to remove all flaming content not relevant to the article discussion, and/or to refactor a discussion. This may allow to forgive and forget offenses more quickly.


== See also ==
Similarly, the disputants might agree to apologize to each other.
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== Further reading ==
''See also:'' ]
*{{cite book |last=Reagle |first=Joseph |title=Good Faith Collaboration: The Culture of Misplaced Pages |year=2010 |publisher=MIT Press |isbn=978-0-262014-47-2 |url=https://books.google.com/books?id=ml7SlTq8XvIC}}
*{{cite book |last=Sutton |first=Robert |author-link=Robert I. Sutton |title=] |date=February 2007 |publisher=Business Plus |isbn=978-0-446-52656-2 }}
*{{cite web |title=How to Keep Hostile Jerks from Taking Over Your Online Community |url= https://www.informationweek.com/how-to-keep-hostile-jerks-from-taking-over-your-online-community/d/d-id/1055100 |first=Cory |last=Doctorow |authorlink=Cory Doctorow |work=] |publisher=TechWeb Business Technology Network |date=May 14, 2007 |accessdate=June 30, 2019}}
*{{cite book | last=Carnegie |first=Dale |author-link=Dale Carnegie | title=] |date=1936|publisher=] |isbn=1-4391-6734-6}}
* "Characterizing Incivility on Misplaced Pages" in the ]


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This page documents an English Misplaced Pages policy.It describes a widely accepted standard that editors should normally follow, though exceptions may apply. Changes made to it should reflect consensus.Shortcuts
This page in a nutshell:
  • Participate in a respectful and considerate way.
  • Do not ignore the positions and conclusions of your fellow editors.
  • Present coherent and concise arguments, and refrain from making personal attacks; encourage others to do the same.
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Civility is part of Misplaced Pages's code of conduct and one of its five pillars. Stated simply, editors should always treat each other with consideration and respect. They should focus on improving the encyclopedia while maintaining a pleasant editing environment by behaving politely, calmly and reasonably, even during heated debates.

Misplaced Pages's civility expectations apply to all editors during all interactions on Misplaced Pages, including discussions at user and article talk pages, in edit summaries, and in any other discussion with or about fellow Wikipedians.

Cooperation and civility

Civil, respectful interactions are important.

Differences of opinion are inevitable in a collaborative project. When discussing these differences, some editors can seem unnecessarily harsh, while simply trying to be forthright. Other editors may seem oversensitive when their views are challenged. Faceless written words on talk pages and in edit summaries do not fully transmit the nuances of verbal conversation, sometimes leading to misinterpretation of an editor's comments. An uncivil remark can escalate spirited discussion into a personal argument that no longer focuses objectively on the problem at hand. Such exchanges waste our efforts and undermine a positive, productive working environment. Resolve differences of opinion through civil discussion; disagree without being disagreeable. Discussion of other editors should be limited to polite discourse about their actions.

Editors are expected to be reasonably cooperative, to refrain from making personal attacks, to work within the scope of policies, and to be responsive to good-faith questions. Try to treat your fellow editors as respected colleagues with whom you are working on an important project. Be especially welcoming and patient towards new users who contribute constructively, but politely discourage non-constructive newcomers.

Assume good faith

The assume good faith guideline states that unless there is strong evidence to the contrary, editors should assume that others are trying to help, not hurt the project.

The guideline does not require that editors continue to assume good faith in the presence of obvious evidence of intentional wrongdoing. However, do not assume there is more misconduct than evidence supports. Given equally plausible interpretations of the evidence, choose the most positive one.

Apologising: It's OK to say sorry

See also: Misplaced Pages:Apology

Disputes, and even misunderstandings, can lead to situations in which one party feels injured by the other. There's no loss of face in apologising. We all make mistakes, we all say the odd hurtful thing, we all have bad days and bad moments. If you have a sneaky feeling you owe someone an apology, offer the apology. Apologising does not hurt you.

Remember, though, that you cannot demand an apology from anyone else. It will only get their back up and make it either less likely to happen, or to be totally insincere if you do get an apology. Never be too proud to make the first move when it comes to saying sorry. That kind of "pride" is destructive. An apology provides the opportunity for a fresh start, and can clear the air when one person's perceived incivility has offended another.

Different places, different atmospheres

See also: Help:Talk pages and Misplaced Pages:Talk page guidelines

Article talk pages should be, on the whole, considered to be professional workspaces. They are places to collaborate on how to improve the article, and to discuss the article (though it's OK for conversations to wander into related areas, or go more into depth than the article does, as that helps with research and gives ideas on improvement).

While an editor's talk page may have a more informal atmosphere than article talk pages, civility policy still applies everywhere, including there. Note that, in general, the editor may remove comments there at their discretion.

Edit summary dos and don'ts

Shortcuts See also: Help:Edit summary § Always provide an edit summary, and Help:Edit summary § How to write an edit summary

Review your edit summaries before saving your edits. Remember you cannot go back and change them.

Here is a list of tips about edit summaries:

  • Be clear about what you did, so that other editors can assess your changes accurately.
  • Use neutral language.
  • Remain calm.
  • Don't make snide comments.
  • Don't make personal remarks about editors.
  • Don't be aggressive.

No personal attacks or harassment

Main pages: Misplaced Pages:No personal attacks and Misplaced Pages:Harassment See also: Misplaced Pages:Casting aspersions

Editors are expected to not personally attack or harass other editors. This applies equally to all: it is as unacceptable to attack an editor who has a history of foolish or boorish behaviour, or even one who has been subject to disciplinary action by the Arbitration Committee, as it is to attack any other. Misplaced Pages encourages a positive online community: people make mistakes, but they are encouraged to learn from them and change their ways. Personal attacks and harassment are contrary to this spirit, disruptive to the work of building an encyclopedia, and editors engaging in such behaviour, may be sanctioned, including, but not limited to being blocked.

Incivility

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Civility is to human nature what warmth is to wax.

Arthur Schopenhauer

Incivility consists of personal attacks, rudeness and disrespectful comments. Especially when done in an aggressive manner, these often alienate editors and disrupt the project through unproductive stressors and conflict. While a few minor incidents of incivility that no one complains about are not necessarily a concern, a continuing pattern of incivility is unacceptable. In cases of repeated harassment or egregious personal attacks, then the offender may be blocked. Even a single act of severe incivility could result in a block, such as a single episode of extreme verbal abuse or profanity directed at another contributor, or a threat against another person.

In general, be understanding and non-retaliatory in dealing with incivility. If others are uncivil, do not respond the same way. Consider ignoring isolated examples of incivility, and simply moving forward with the content issue. If necessary, point out gently that you think the comment might be considered uncivil and make it clear that you want to move on and focus on the content issue. Bear in mind that the editor may not have thought they were being uncivil; Misplaced Pages is edited by people from many different backgrounds, and standards vary. Take things to dispute resolution (see below) only if there is an ongoing problem that you cannot resolve.

This policy is not a weapon to use against other contributors. To insist that an editor be sanctioned for an isolated, minor incident, to repeatedly bring up past incivility after an individual has changed their approach, or to treat constructive criticism as an attack, is in itself potentially disruptive, and may result in warnings or even blocks if repeated.

Identifying incivility

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It is sometimes difficult to make a hard-and-fast judgement of what is uncivil and what is not. Editors should take into account factors such as (i) the intensity and context of the language/behaviour; (ii) whether the behaviour has occurred on a single occasion, or is occasional or regular; (iii) whether a request has already been made to stop the behaviour, and whether that request is recent; (iv) whether the behaviour has been provoked; and (v) the extent to which the behaviour of others needs to be treated at the same time.

The following behaviours can contribute to an uncivil environment:

  1. Direct rudeness
    1. rudeness, insults, name-calling, gross profanity or indecent suggestions
    2. personal attacks, including racial, ethnic, sexual, disability-related, gender-related and religious slurs, and derogatory references to groups such as social classes or nationalities
    3.  Shortcut:   WP:ICA 
      ill-considered accusations of impropriety
    4. belittling a fellow editor, including the use of judgemental edit summaries or talk-page posts (e.g. "that is the stupidest thing I have ever seen", "snipped crap")
  2. Other uncivil behaviours
    1. taunting or baiting: deliberately pushing others to the point of breaching civility even if not seeming to commit such a breach themselves. All editors are responsible for their own actions in cases of baiting; a user who is baited is not excused by that if they attack in response, and a user who baits is not excused from their actions by the fact that the bait may be taken.
    2. harassment, including Wikihounding, bullying, personal or legal threats, posting of personal information, repeated email or user space postings
    3. sexual harassment
    4. lying
    5. quoting another editor out of context to give the impression they meant something they did not.

In addition, lack of care when applying other policies can lead to conflict and stress. For instance, referring to a user's good-faith edits as vandalism may lead to them feeling unfairly attacked. Use your best judgement, and be ready to apologize if you turn out to be wrong.

Avoiding incivility

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Incivility – or the appearance of incivility – typically arises from heated content disputes.

  • Explain yourself. Insufficient explanations for edits can be perceived as uncivil. Use good edit summaries, and use the talk page if the edit summary does not provide enough space or if a more substantive debate is likely to be needed.
  • Be careful with user warning templates. Be careful about issuing templated messages to editors you're currently involved in a dispute with, and exercise caution when using templated messages for newcomers (see Misplaced Pages:Please do not bite the newcomers). Consider using a personal message instead of, or in addition to, the templated message.
  • Try not to get too intense. Passion can be misread as aggression, so take great care to avoid the appearance of being heavy-handed or bossy. Nobody likes to be bossed about by an editor who appears to believe that they are "superior"; nobody likes a bully.
  • Avoid editing while you're in a bad mood. It does spill over. (See Editing under the influence and No angry mastodons)
  • Take a real-life check. Disengage by two steps to assess what you're about to say (or have just said). Asking yourself "How would I feel if someone said that to me?" is often not enough; many people can just brush things off. To get a better perspective, ask yourself: "How would I feel if someone said that to someone I love who cannot just 'brush it off'?" If you would find that unacceptable, then do not say it. And, if you have already said it, strike the text and apologise.
  • Be professional. Just because we are online and unpaid does not mean we can behave badly to each other. People working together in a newspaper office are not supposed to get into punch-ups in the newsroom because they disagree about how something is worded or whose turn it is to make the coffee. Nor are volunteers working at the animal rescue centre allowed to start screaming at each other over who left ferrets in the filing cabinet or the corn snake in the cutlery drawer. In fact, there's pretty much nowhere in this world where people working together to do something good are allowed to get into fist-fights, shouting matches, hair-pulling or name-calling; the same principle applies here.
  • Avoid name-calling. Someone may very well be an idiot, but telling them so is neither going to increase their intelligence nor improve your ability to communicate with them.
  • Avoid condescension. No matter how frustrated you are, do not tell people to "grow up" or include any language along the lines of "if this were kindergarten" in your messages.
  • Avoid appearing to ridicule another editor's comment. Even if you see the comment as ridiculous, they very probably don't, and expressing ridicule is likely only to offend and antagonise, rather than helping.
  • Be careful with edit summaries. They are relatively short comments and thus potentially subject to misinterpretation or oversimplification. They cannot be changed after pressing "Save", and are often written in haste, particularly in stressful situations. Remember to explain your edit, especially when things are getting heated; to avoid personal comments about any editors you have disputes with; and to use the talk page to further explain your view of the situation.

Being right is not enough

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Incivility is not excused on the grounds that the editor who violated those expectations has the "correct" position on an underlying substantive dispute or the interpretation of policies and guidelines within those disputes. Civility is expected of all editors; incivility is harmful to the functioning of the project irrespective of the merits of an underlying dispute.

Dealing with incivility

See also: Misplaced Pages:Responding to incivility Shortcut
  1. First of all, consider whether you and the other editor may simply have misunderstood each other. Clarify, and ask for clarification.
  2. Consider the possibility that something you said or did wrongly provoked a defensive, irritated or fed-up response. Be prepared to apologise for anything which you could/should have done better. (If an awful lot of people seem to be getting frustrated with you, the problem may be with you.)
    • However, this does not excuse incivility.
  3. Even if you're offended, be as calm and reasonable as possible in your response. Until there is clear evidence to the contrary, assume that the offense was unintended.
  4. Explain, clearly but kindly, exactly what you felt was uncivil. Sometimes it helps to let the other editor know how their edit made you feel. Editors are not mind-readers. ("That made me feel..." is much less likely to incite more anger or resentment than "Your post was...")
  5. Ask them to strike through an uncivil comment, or to re-word it calmly and neutrally.
  6. No matter how much you're being provoked, resist the temptation to snap back. It never works; it just makes things worse. Strive to become the editor who can't be baited.
  7. If none of this is working, and the other person is not damaging the project or being uncivil or unkind to other editors, either walk away or request dispute resolution from uninvolved editors.
  8. When the other editor needs to be stopped in their tracks to avoid causing serious disruption or needs a fast and strong wake-up call, file a report at the administrators' "Incidents" noticeboard. Bear in mind the risk of being hoist by your own petard if you yourself are guilty of policy violations. Please also read the ANI advice first.

Removing uncivil comments

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See also: Misplaced Pages:Talk page guidelines and Misplaced Pages:No personal attacks § Removal of personal attacks

Where the uncivil comment is yours, any of these options will help reduce the impact:

  • Where someone is unintentionally offended at your comment, calmly explain what you meant.
  • Strike it out (using <s>HTML strikeout tags</s>), to show, publicly, that you withdraw the comment.
  • Quietly remove it, or rewrite the comment to be more civil – Usually only a good idea if you think better of it before anyone objected to it. If someone has already reacted, you should acknowledge the change in a quick comment after the changed text, for instance, Comment removed by author.
  • Simply apologise. This option never hurts, and can be combined well with any of the others. Even if you feel the thrust of your words is true, or that they are misunderstanding what you meant, you can still apologise.

In the event of rudeness or incivility on the part of another editor, it may be appropriate to discuss the offending words with that editor, and to request that editor to change that specific wording. Some care is necessary, however, so as not to further inflame the situation. It is not normally appropriate to edit or remove another editor's comment. Exceptions include to remove obvious trolling or vandalism, or if the comment is on your own user talk page. Derogatory comments about another contributor may be removed by any editor.

Dispute resolution

See also: Misplaced Pages:Dispute resolution § Resolving user conduct disputes

In a case of ongoing incivility, first decide if anything needs to be done. Confronting someone over a minor incident – particularly if it turns out that you misinterpreted what they meant – may produce more stress and drama than the incident itself. Consider your own behaviour, and, if you find you have been uncivil, apologise to them instead.

In escalating order of seriousness, here are the venues you may use for dispute resolution if the relevant page's talk page is insufficient:

  1. User talk page. If some action is necessary, first consider discussing it on that user's talk page. Be careful not to escalate the situation, and politely explain your objection. You may also wish to include a diff of the specific uncivil statement. If you are in active dispute with the user, consider offering an olive branch to them instead.
  2. WP:Third opinion. The forum itself is in general rather used to request input from an uninvolved editor regarding content disputes. For conduct disputes, you may try advertising the issue with the relevant link in its talk page but without discussing it there.
  3. Dispute resolution noticeboard talk page (DRN). Similar to Third Opinion, it deals only with content disputes but in a highly moderated format. For conduct disputes, you may try advertising the issue with the relevant link in its talk page but without discussing it there.
  4. Administrator. If discussions with the editor fail to resolve the issue, you may ask an administrator to evaluate the conduct of the user, specially if the conduct damages Misplaced Pages unduly, is against policy and affects you or others very much. But be aware that your conduct will also be scrutinized.
  5. Administrators' noticeboard/Incidents. The Administrators' noticeboard is intended to report and discuss severe incidents of misconduct that require intervention by administrators and experienced editors.
  6. The last step—only when other avenues have been tried and failed—is the Arbitration Committee. It is the final binding decision-maker primarily for serious conduct disputes the community has been unable to resolve. It scrutinises all sides involved in the dispute and creates binding resolutions. But it may accept or decline any matter at its sole discretion.

Blocking for incivility

See also: Blocking policy § Cool-down blocks

Blocking for incivility is possible when incivility causes serious disruption. However, the civility policy is not intended to be used as a weapon and blocking should not be the first option in most cases.

  1. Be sure to take into account all the relevant history. Avoid snap judgments without acquainting yourself with the background to any situation.
  2. Think very hard of the possible merits of all other avenues of approach before you take action. Sanctions for civility violations should only happen when nothing else would do. Poorly considered civility blocks have at times worsened disputes and increased disruption. Remember that sanctions may be more applicable under another heading (disruption, personal attack, tendentious editing, or harassment)
  3. Civility blocks should be for obvious and uncontentious reasons, because an editor has stepped over the line in a manner nearly all editors can see. In cases where you believe that taking admin action against someone who was uncivil might be contentious, it is expected that discussion will be opened on the matter, via WP:ANI, before any admin action is taken. Benefits derived from long or controversial civility blocks should be weighed against the potential for disruption caused by block reviews, and unblock requests.
  4. Users should be clearly warned, in most circumstances, before being blocked for incivility, and should be allowed sufficient time to retract, reword or explain uncivil comments. Even experienced contributors should not be blocked without warning. Exceptions to this may include users who make egregious violations or threats, or who have received multiple warnings or blocks.

Immediate blocking is generally reserved for cases of major incivility, where incivility rises to the level of clear disruption, personal attacks, harassment or outing. As with other blocks, civility blocks should be preventive and not punitive.

Emergency situations

See also: Misplaced Pages:No legal threats and Misplaced Pages:Oversight

Hateful speech, legal threats, and other urgent incidents should be reported at the Administrator's Noticeboard Incidents page.

A special case is outing, that is, revealing personally identifiable information about another editor that they have not revealed themselves and probably do not want known, such as their name, phone number or address. These should be immediately reverted, then an oversighter should be contacted to remove the information from the edit history, so that it cannot be found by anyone else later. This applies whether or not the information is correct, as to confirm the information is incorrect by treating it any differently gives the outer useful information. Misplaced Pages:Outing has full information.

red-outlined triangle containing exclamation point Threats of violence or suicide should be reported immediately. See WP:EMERGENCY.

See also

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Notes

  1. Grayling, A.C. (2001). The Meaning of Things. Weidenfeld & Nicolson. p. 13.
  2. Originally formulated by the Arbitration Committee in Misplaced Pages:Arbitration/Requests/Case/SmallCat dispute#Being right isn't enough.
  3. Administrators should try to follow The Principle of Least Drama: when given a choice between several ways of dealing with a problem, pick the one that generates the least drama.
  4. " law and its fulfilment, namely punishment, are essentially directed to the future, not to the past. This distinguishes punishment from revenge; for the motives which instigate the latter are solely concerned with what has happened, and thus with the past as such. All requital of wrong by the infliction of pain, without any aim for the future, is revenge, and can have no other end than consolation for the suffering one has borne by the sight of the suffering one has inflicted upon another. This is wickedness and cruelty, and cannot be morally justified." —Arthur Schopenhauer (1883). The World as Will and Representation, Vol. I, § 62.

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