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== Regarding pedophilia to child sexual abuse. ==
== CAMH Sources ==

Those looking over that page might notice that a few articles are heavily cited, even though they are given little weight elsewhere. This isn't was a consensus development, but the result of a determination of an editor to specifically cite CAMH sources: two papers written by four authors, all at the same facility, CAMH. For brevity, we'll call the papers F&B (Freund and Blanchard) and C,B,&B (Cantor, Blanchard, and Barbaree). This determination would also have driven the removal of references to the DSM, since the APA's established, consensus view as expressed in the DSM was in conflict with some of CAMH's conclusions. A number of the CAMH conclusions disagree with basic observations. This is why they have been largely disregarded as fringe theories in academia.

'''These fringe theories include:'''

A) Everyone expressing a sexual interest in diapers, but who doesn't want to be a baby, either has an incomplete form of infantilism or is hiding their desire to be a baby. (C,B,&B pg 531) That is, ] do not exist.
:The DSM clearly has a section on fetishes. Few would argue that fetishes exist. WLU has already taken it upon himself to strip away all references to the ]'s sections on fetishism or general paraphilias from the diaper fetishism article.

:<original research>In an AB/DL community survey, . When asked about a sense of being a baby, . 17% percent reported considering it 'Tolerable,' and 15% that it 'Must be absent.' </original research>

B) Female ] don't exist.(F&B 588) That is, women who prefer women - lesbians - do not exist.
:While the prevalence of lesbianism might be debated, there seems to be a clear consensus that they exist.

C) Infantilism is an autoerotic form of pedophilia (C,B,&B pg 531).
: The ], the widely available and widely adopted document expressing the consensus opinion of the ], groups pedophilia in section 302.2, pg 571. It also defines paraphilic infantilism as a type of masochism, section 302.83 pg 572. Thus, infantilism is not a form of pedophilia. Supporting sources already mentioned include Mattoon, pg 207; Brame, pg 137; Holmes, pg 81. This fringe theory appears to be only accepted by that one facility, CAMH.

'''With additional ] from WLU, that "masochistic qynephile"=infantilist, the fringe theories also include:'''


Pedophilia should not be directly related to child sexual abuse as pedophilia is the sexual attraction to children, not the act of causing harm to them. The overall feel of this section is that a pedophile cannot behave towards a child in a protective manner and this is an ill-perceived ideal based on stereotype.
D) Infantilists ("masochistic qynephiles") are all heterosexual males or homosexual females (qyne = woman, wife). Homosexual male infantilists do not occur.
:<original research> My own survey .</original research>


It's the same as saying everyone who thinks about suicide kills themselves.
E) All infantilists will (if complete) want to be baby girls. A pedophilic masochistic qynephile with the "erotic target location error" hypothesized would desire to be the erotic target of a pedophilic qynephile; a little girl. (pedo- child, gyne- woman, wife)
:Of three examples mentioned for support in F&B, one wanted to be a boy of 10, and the other two were unspecified. This fringe view does not even hold true of the author's examples.)
:<original research> My own survey .</original research>


] (]) 16:59, 14 February 2014 (UTC)
'''These fringe theories, and the papers advocating them, should not be included.'''


I don't think pedophilia has any relevance or should be mentioned in this article at all. Saying something is "not" something doesn't really belong. Paraphilic infantilism is not driving a monster truck, either. But we don't need to say it in the article. Sure, there may be some idiots out there who commonly confuse paraphilic infantilism with driving monster trucks, but I do not see that we cater on wikipedia in an article to saying everything under a sun something is not. You do not define something by listing out everything it is *not*, but rather, what it is. Move to delete reference to pedophilia as having nothing to do with the article. ] (]) 07:18, 22 May 2014 (UTC)
1: Per the Fringe theories guideline: "]." Since this is not an article on these fringe theories but on paraphilic infantilism, the fringe theories may only be mentioned if connected by independent sources. C, B, B, and F are all colleagues: C, B(lanchard), &B is not independent of F&B(lanchard).


:Since paraphilic infantilism is commonly confused with pedophilia, so commonly confused with it, apparently, that ] address the matter, it is ] (very appropriate) that ] (]) 07:29, 22 May 2014 (UTC)
2: Without fudging the sources, mentioning fringe theory B would involve "pedophilia," an emotionally charged word.
per MOS, "]" One facility represented by four people, two sources is not "widely used."


::I have changed "infantilism is not related to pedophilia, or any other form of child sexual abuse" to "infantilism is not related to pedophilia, or any form of child sexual abuse", because the word "other" implied that pedophilia is a form of child abuse which it is not. ] (]) 13:34, 14 May 2016 (UTC)
3: Regarding fringe theory C, the C,B,&B paper only cites the one paper by F&B. As detailed in the essay on "Party and Person," , and so C,B,&B is primary in this regard.
::"Commonly confused" by ''who'', exactly?
::First, this appears to be a straight-forward example of ], as it is effectively the same as vaguely declaring that "some are said to believe", "many people say", "x has been described as y", etc. But, '''who''' exactly are these people who confuse paraphilic infantilism with pedophilia, how common is "common", and most importantly, '''why''' is their confusion and misconceptions credible or noteworthy?
::I'm also reminded of the phase ]; from a movement in which unscientific opinions were suggested to be given comparable weight and credibility as scientific fact. And yet, if we look at the ], it should be noted that there is no mention of the pseudo-scientific theory of intelligent design outside of the very last paragraph of the last section, concerning "Social and Cultural Responses".
::In my view that approach is appropriate, because it is not the role of an encyclopedia to imbue all ideas with equal weight, but instead to primarily present objective facts and credible viewpoints from verifiable sources.
::Finally, on top of the fact that there is no credible or verifiable association between paraphilic infantilism and pedophilia, the label of "pedophile" itself is an ]. These kinds of labels, especially when misapplied, can do real damage to the health and safety of people as well as the ability for society at large to understand and discuss the true diversity or human experience.
::It's for these reasons that I also strongly argue to remove the vague and dubious references to pedophilia from this article as being totally irrelevant and given undue weight compared to objective facts and credible, modern and verifiable viewpoints.
::(If anything, "teaching the controversy" in which paraphilic infantilism is confused with pedophilia should be relegated to a specific section of the article. But only if there is a legitimate and reasonable basis to give weight to such an obvious misconception. In my view it's long past due that those who want to include references to pedophilia in this article justify doing so with something more credible than weasel words, ''lest this very article becomes a vector for propagating this harmful and factually baseless misconception''.) ] (]) 08:41, 25 April 2023 (UTC)
:::<small>commented added on behalf of FuwaFuwaDL <span style="font-family:Iosevka,monospace">0x]</span>→∞ (]) 12:52, 25 April 2023 (UTC)</small>


It is not important but I feel that you do not understand English correctly. "infantilism is not related to paedophilia, or any other form of sexual abuse of children" implies that paedophilia is a form of child abuse, which is not contrary to the usual understanding of the matter, so the sentence could remain in this form. To imply that infantilism is a form of child abuse you would have to write "paedophilia is not related to infantilism, or any other form of sexual abuse of children". <!-- Template:Unsigned IP --><small class="autosigned">—&nbsp;Preceding ] comment added by ] (]) 23:37, 10 July 2016 (UTC)</small> <!--Autosigned by SineBot-->
4: Also regarding fringe theory C; The text of F&B was so ambiguous that WLU thought "Freund & Blanchard explicitly states that the sexual focus is only superficially similar and discusses what distinguishes a pedophile from an infantilist (which they term masochistic gynaephile)." until it was pointed out to him that his reading of F&B differed from the one presented in C, B. &B.


::I've added a reference to a new (2019) study indicating that there is no correlation between infantilism and pedophilic interests. I've also removed the language "infantilism is commonly confused with pedophilia" from the introduction (where no source was cited) and revised it in the main text (where the source cited was from 1991). If the article were to assert that this confusion is common, I'd think it would have to cite a more recent source to show that the confusion remains commmon. Otherwise there is a problem with ]. The current policy on ] doesn't appear to address this issue. ] (]) 16:53, 9 October 2019 (UTC)
5: F&B is structured around novel categories labeled with neologisms. Neologisms ] In particular, it does not use the term "paraphilic infantilism." Attempts to use C,B,&B to conclude that one or more specific neologisms is infantilism are ], since C,B,&B doesn't state which neologism(s) was intended to replace paraphilic infantilism, and so mean(s) the same thing. The assumption that it was the category that is least out-of-line from the DSM ("masochistic qynephile") is just that - an assumption.
:::. Per ], we should not be basing content on some new primary source study. And we include historical views, such as ]'s. Whether such views should be regulated to the "History" section is something to consider. Either way, without your addition, the article is already clear that paraphilic infantilism is not the same thing as pedophilia. As for citing that the confusion is common, which it clearly is and is why you felt the need to add the study you added, I will see about sourcing that with a newer WP:MEDRS-compliant source later on. ] (]) 03:55, 10 October 2019 (UTC)


:::: (1) There are a lot of primary sources in the reference list of the article currently, the ] policy on primary sources not withstanding. If this article can cite a case study, I don't see why it can't cite a survey study with over a thousand subjects. Is there a suitably neutral way of including the finding in Fuss et al. somewhere in this article? Perhaps a direct quotation?
6: C,B,&B cites Malitz and Tuchman & Lachman to support "There have also been reports of individuals ... who express no desire to seem like an infant (Malitz, 1966, Tuchman & Lachman, 1964)" However, they both mentioned regression. Malitz: "Dynamically the patient's diaper appeared to symbolize a regression to infancy in order to reclaim the attention and love of his mother and to undo his displacement in her affections by his sister's birth." Tuchman & Lachman conclude "The regressive quality and symbolism of the behavior pattern suggest a schizophrenic mechanism." When challenged on this point, James Cantor commented only on the typography on the challenge, not the sexology. (Pate comments that neither Malitz's nor Tuchman & Lachman's patient's said they wanted to be a baby. While both authors mentioned regressive themes, neither documented the patient saying that he wanted to be a baby.)


:::: (2) I really think the paragraph on Money's views in the "pedophilia" section has to be removed or modified. As written, it is making a speculative allegation about diaper fetishists, using the word "may," that would be ] per se if said about a named individual. Can the claim about diaper fetishists be removed from this paragraph, leaving behind the unproblematic comment about Money's view of infantilism?
7: C,B,&B intermixes psychosexual infantilism (Stekel) and paraphilic infantilism (defined by the DSM). Most cases of psychosexual infantilism did not involve either diapers or babyhood. While reasonable before the publication of DSM IIIR, modern sources should observe this distinction. IIIR was the first to include a definition of paraphilic infantilism, and was published in 1987.


:::: (3) Consider "sometimes confused" rather than "commonly confused" if a neutral, recent source can't be found. ] (]) 06:14, 10 October 2019 (UTC)
8: CAMH has editor(s?) on it's payroll promoting themselves and CAMH interests on Misplaced Pages. Only one of these is (or at least was) open about his financial conflict of interest, and then only after it was discovered by another editor. Relevant to this article, he argued for removing references to the DSM from this article and suggested his own writings and an alternative . This opened the door for his own writing to be cited in this article NINE times, even though it conflicted with the established consensus opinion, expressed in the DSM.


:::::Yes, there are a lot of primary sources in the article. And when someone has argued that regarding other articles, my response has been that existing poor sources and/or content does not mean that it is okay to add more poor sources and/or poor content. Furthermore, primary-sourced content based on older sources is much more likely to be covered in secondary and/or tertiary academic sources than a primary source from the current year is. I haven't edited this article much, but if I ever get around to doing so, it would include replacing the primary sources with secondary and tertiary sources where possible without losing important content. I might need to do that even if I'd rather not take the time to do it; this is so that the article adheres to WP:MEDRS as best it can (which may sometimes mean retaining a primary source here and there, per ]), to help keep out poor or ] content. If there is any content in the article that falls under WP:Fringe, we should consider how best to present that material or to remove it. But when it comes to early/historical sexological views, even if they are fringe, we should include those in some way. For example, Money's Lovemap theory is something we should cover. I the aforementioned Money text from "states" to "argued." I think that with the ] and the use of "argued" and "may," it's clear that this is Money's opinion. It's not presented as fact. It seems to fit in that section because the sentence briefly addresses sexual attraction to diaper-wearing babies, and it doesn't seem he was referring to people with that attraction being sexually oriented toward adults in any way. ] (]) 01:30, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
Alternatives to the promotion of all of this fringe, uncertainly, and baggage, have been proposed and ignored. ] (]) 03:02, 12 November 2011 (UTC)
:Your own unpublished studies are unreliable.
:Your own opinion is only as good as anyone who agrees with your points. To date I don't believe anyone has.
:Several editors have agreed that the DSM doesn't discuss infantilism in the sense used on this page.
:Bringing up Cantor's own editing history on wikipedia is meaningless since he's not responsible for any of the recent changes.
:Claiming something is a fringe theory doesn't make it a fringe theory. There is a paucity of research on paraphilic infantilism so we can essentially use whatever is scholarly and available to expand the page. To demonstrate something is a fringe theory, it requires you to demonstrate that ''other experts'', not editors, disagree with it or criticize it for being overused.
:You're misapplying wikpedia policies. ] applies to new articles. The use of homonyms in an article is allowable if supported by reliable sources. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 23:54, 3 December 2011 (UTC)
::Since you are the one edit warring to include the fringe theory, the burden to find independent sources is on you. Per the Fringe theories guideline: "]." That is a direct quote. I strongly suspect you would have added any non-CAMH sources to support your pet fringe theory if you had any. Why would you withhold them if you had them?
::Stop pointing fingers. Stop making false accusations. Time to put up or shut up. ] (]) 00:11, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
:::How do you know it is a fringe theory? ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 00:36, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
::::If you can't find even one non-CAMH source that supports or even seriously discusses the CAMH theory, it is a fringe theory. Clearly, you can't, so clearly, it is. ] (]) 01:13, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::There's very little research, publications and general scientific literature on paraphilic infantilism. There are no real alternatives, or even a mainstream orthodoxy on it. There is no "mainstream view" that CAMH is "fringe" to that I'm aware of. These are peer reviewed works published in mainstream journals, or by mainstream publishing houses - respected venues that are considered quite orthodox. They are works by scholars writing in their own areas of expertise. They definitely meet the criteria for being reliable sources. There has been no criticisms raised in any reliable publishing venues that I've seen. A theory like ] is clearly fringe, and there are lots of texts that point out it is not a real thing, it's a moral panic - "moral panic" is the orthodoxy, "killing babies for the devil" is the fringe theory; the former clearly outweigh the latter in both respectability of sources and number of texts that take this view. The same for ] - there are a minority of participants who promote it, and a large, large number of legal and psychiatric scholars who criticize it. Where are the critical sources for CAMH's publications?
:::::It doesn't look like these documents and theories meet the criteria to be a ]. It looks like you personally disagree with what they say, and thus wish them removed. That is not appropriate. And even if they were a fringe theory, removal is not appropriate. Instead, we would briefly summarize what they said, then immediately after point to the criticisms made in other, more respected and more voluminous sources. Fringe theories are not labelled as such because of editor beliefs, they are labelled as such by other sources. WP:FRINGE pretty clearly states that reliability and peer reviews are thresholds that fringe theories generally fall below. The publications you are removing pass those thresholds. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 02:06, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
::::::The DSM, the consensus document of the American Psychiatric Association, categorizes infantilism as a type of masochism (pg 572 in 4TR). Given how long you've been edit warring over the DSM, I'd suggest reading it. If you'd like to fix those other articles, be my guest. Now stop trying to divert the discussion.
::::::Claiming that there is "very little research" doesn't justify pushing your version here. Do you have independent sources or not? If not, the fringe theory doesn't belong here. ] (]) 02:42, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::::I have read the pages of the DSM, I have photocopies of all 6 relevant pages and infantilism only appears once as a behaviour of masochism. That aspect is dealt with on the main page. As numerous editors have said - the DSM doesn't discuss infantilism that way. Saying it does doesn't make it so. This was discussed and addressed ]. Myself, {{user|WhatamIdoing}}, {{user|FiachraByrne}}, {{user|James Cantor}} and {{user|FuFoFuEd}} disagreed with you. Nobody agreed with you.
:::::::Claiming something is a fringe theory doesn't make it so. Fringe theories are demonstrated by reliable sources being critical of the theories. If it is genuinely a fringe theory, please present reliable sources that criticize it. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 13:23, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
::::::::Six pages? In February you were edit warring to cite fourty seven pages. Were you wrong then, wrong now, or both times?
::::::::Stop trying to distract from the fact that you don't have any independent sources to support the fringe theory you are pushing. As I've clearly stated, there is a consensus view, published by the APA, which contradicts your fringe theory. Longtime buddies and editors with conflicts of interest are not a substitute for independent sources. Gangs are not a substitute for independent sources. Votestacking is not a substitute for independent sources. Claiming support from others who aren't supporting you is not a substitute for independent sources. As the edit history clearly shows, you are the ONLY ONE pushing this fringe view here.


:::::: I take your point about adding further primary sources. The paragraph on Money needed further editing. As written, the passage suggested that Money thought that (some? all?) diaper fetishists "may be" nepiophiles. That is a shocking accusation, bordering on libel, if he indeed took that view. I was not able to find the Money book cited in this passage, but I was able to find Money's definition of "autonepiophilia" in ''Lovemaps'' (p. 259). There, he defines the terms "autonepiophilia" and "nepiophilia" without saying anything about diaper fetishists. I've edited the passage on Money so that it makes no mention of diaper fetishists. I trust this is OK, since diaper fetishism is not the topic of this article. ] (]) 02:06, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
::::::::Per the Fringe theories guideline: "]." You don't have independent sources for the fringe theory you are trying to push, so it should go. ] (]) 14:44, 4 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::::With edit, you removed the "Money argued" piece. If he did argue that diaper fetishists may be sexually attracted to diaper-wearing babies, that is his argument and would still be his argument even if in the ] article. Whether or not to include the material is not a matter of ]. Unless speaking of libel in terms of some ] matter, libel has nothing to do with how we write Misplaced Pages articles; see, for example, ]. Diaper fetishism is a related topic, which is why it's mentioned in the lead and there is a section on it in this article. The Money bit you removed can go there, where Money is already mentioned. ] (]) 03:13, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
:::::::::What source contains this view published by the APA?
:::::::::"Independent" means not published by the subjects themselves (i.e. not ]). is published by ]. is published in the peer-reviewed ''British Journal of Psychiatry''. All of the sources are thus independent and bear the imprimatur of the publisher, the ''de facto'' approval of the editorial and peer reviewers, particularly in the absence of a withdrawal or criticism by other scholars. This is why the publications and opinions expressed therein are not considered fringe theories. I have ] the opinion more specifically to Blanchard, Freund, Cantor & Howard as it is a proposed theory rather than the general consensus. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 15:49, 5 December 2011 (UTC)
::::::::::] Blanchard et al is not independent from Blanchard et al.
::::::::::Again, please actually read the DSM, pg 572 of 4th TR ed. You will clearly see infantilism defined under the heading of masochism, not pedophilia as claimed by the fringe theory. ] (]) 06:03, 6 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::::::::] is about self-published and primary sources as they apply to people, businesses and cities discussing themselves in a self-promoting manner. It doesn't apply to scholarly sources. The DSM has been discussed repeatedly. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 11:45, 6 December 2011 (UTC)
::::::::::::] is about INDEPENDENT sources, thus the title "Independent Sources.", which Blanchard et al and Blanchard et al are not. Blanchard in particular has an interested perspective in how Blanchard's fringe theory is described. Feel free to point out any policy, guideline, or essay that supports your position. I've quoted a number of policies. Perhaps it is you whom no one agrees with. The DSM simply and clearly contradicts the fringe view you are pushing. Since you continue to ask about it as if you had no familiarity with it (eg "What source contains this view published by the APA?"), I continue to mention it, hoping that you will actually read it after all theses months. ] (]) 14:07, 6 December 2011 (UTC)
{{od}}Independent sources are those subject to independent scrutiny (i.e. peer review) and publication. This is met by any article published in a peer reviewed journal or a scholarly press book as all of Blanchard, Freund, Cantor and Barbaree's works cited here are. Blanchard may indeed have an interest in how his theory is published and summarized, but that doesn't mean he has control over publication - if his ideas were not considered respected or supported, the peer review process or editor would not publish it. Quoting a policy doesn't mean it applies correctly. I've posted a notice at the ].


:::::::But, yes, without being sure if he made the argument and since the piece is not vital, we can leave it out. ] (]) 03:21, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
The DSM issue was discussed and closed, for the second time I will point to it: ]. If you are claiming the APA source that portrays the "consensus view" on paraphilic infantilism is the DSM, you are wrong and your interpretation has never been supported by any other editor.


== Infantilist found guilty of kidnap, rape and torture of child ==
Blanchard, Freund, Cantor and Barbaree's works are not fringe theories. You have provided no reliable sources to substantiate this assertion, merely your own opinion. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 15:54, 6 December 2011 (UTC)


In light of the David Challenor case<ref>https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/coventry-captive-girl-attic-torture-den-david-challenor-coventry-a8502991.html</ref> should the sentence
:WLU wriote "If you are claiming the APA source that portrays the "consensus view" on paraphilic infantilism is the DSM, you are wrong and your interpretation has never been supported by any other editor." So James Cantor is now no longer an editor? He did use the DSM in that way. ] (]) 03:12, 8 December 2011 (UTC)
::I'm not sure why you are bringing up a single edit on a different page by an editor from three years ago as if it had any bearing on this discussion. Particularly when that editor has not ventured an explicit opinion here. You may however, be interested in his more recent opinion . So drop it then? Even assuming he didn't make a simple error in citation three years ago, his opinion now is obviously different. And irrelevant. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 11:24, 8 December 2011 (UTC)
:::To promote that CAMH theory as anything other than a fringe view in opposition to the widely published consensus, you need to get the DSM dismissed as irrelevant. That edit shows that even an editor on the CAMH payroll thought the DSM WAS relevant. As for that quote, you might actually want to read it. He mentions categorizing infantilism as "paraphilia NOS (not otherwise specified)", NOT pedophilia. The fringe theory that you are pushing categorizes it as a type of pedophilia. '''Not even the person you are quoting agrees with you.''' Perhaps you are the one who should "drop it"? ] (]) 14:35, 8 December 2011 (UTC)
::::No, edit shows that James Cantor doesn't think the DSM's mention of the word "infantilism" is relevant, and Blanchard and Freund ''distinguish'' pedophilia from paraphilic infantilism. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 15:57, 8 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::So you are arguing that Cantor is inconsistent, first using the DSM to define infantilism and then waffling and citing his own new text? Not the best position, given that CB&B is the only source you are claiming for support that doesn't require WP:SYNTH in equating some particular neologism off a list and infantilism. F&B doesn't even use the word 'infantilism' once. ] (]) 03:11, 9 December 2011 (UTC)
=== RS/N summary ===
Some relevant quotes from a now-archived discussion about these sources.
*AerobicFox:"This source has a variety of WP:REDFLAGs, the preface of this textbook states "it is aimed primarily at graduate students taking a first course in adultpsychopathology ... chapter authors were ''given considerable latitude''"(emph mine). The chapter author of this particular chapter, Ray Blanchard, sources this theory to his own published work in 1993.".
*Fifelfoo:"MEDRS applies. Freund 1993 is a PRIMARY in terms of medical research, it is the first proposal of a theory, and therefore unreliable. Cantor 2009 would be a secondary, but I consider it tainted by association with an author who proposes the theory. Cantor 2009 can be used if independent secondary studies published in appropriate medical forums attest to the uptake of this medical theory. Until someone can demonstrate this, the text should be removed from the article as unverifiable due to failing to meet MEDRS."
*(Elinruby also commented, but stated not having examined the sources.)
The discussion itself was stretched out to twelve thousand words, perhaps expecting that fatigue would prevent others from becoming involved in the article, or doing more than just expressing their concerns on the noticeboard. Sadly, this effect was apparently achieved. ] (]) 06:01, 30 January 2012 (UTC)
::(diff to longtime supporter who didn't comment at RS/N, added by WLU)
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:That's an extremely selective summary. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 22:40, 30 January 2012 (UTC)
::WLU, thanks for demonstrating that my summary of the RS/N (the reliable sources noticeboard) discussion was impartial. Had I left out anything that supported your position, you would have linked directly to it. As it is, you just threw up links to entire discussions at the fringe theories noticeboard, including one extremely partial diff. Are you aware that Misplaced Pages has multiple noticeboards, and that the fringe theories noticeboard is not the reliable sources noticeboard? ] (]) 01:13, 31 January 2012 (UTC)


"Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and infantilists do not seek children as sexual partners."
== Undue weight ==


not be amended to read
It is claimed that citing Blanchard, Freund, Cantor and Barbaree's works is ] to appear three times. There is no consensus on what causes or contributes to paraphilic infantilism that I am aware of, merely a small number of theories. The DSM certainly does not (see ]). Three sections have been tagged:


"Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and infantilists do not ''normally'' seek children as sexual partners."
Within the supersection of "Relation to other conditions":


I'm hesitant to edit the article as I don't know if someone is actively managing it and whether this would require some additional information on how different paraphilias can be present in the same person, but I think this should be amended (especially since this is not the only conviction of an infantilist in relation to children).] (]) 14:43, 2 September 2018 (UTC)
] - In this section, Blanchard and Freund are cited to make a distinction between pedophilia and paraphilic infantilism. This is two sentences, clearly attributed.
:Content should be based on what the literature states, not on some news headline. That stated, child molesters come from a variety of backgrounds. It is obviously incorrect to imply that an infantilist can never be sexually interested in little children. Those familiar with the literature on pedophilia and child sexual abuse topics know that it's not even the case that everyone is who has sexually abused a little kid is technically a pedophile; the ] article addresses this. So feel free to add "normally." I'm not going to revert. ] (]) 06:06, 3 September 2018 (UTC)
::All this conversation does is prove just how completely out-of-place, and potentially loaded, the above sentence is.
::Any category of person, or member of any group, has the ''possibility'' of being a pedophile (or a rapist, murderer, or on the positive side, an olympic athlete, renowned artist, astronaut, etc.), but that obviously does not warrant the weight of inclusion without solid evidence of a genuine connection, correlation or causation.
::For example, there have been countless documented examples of priests having sexually abused children, but if you ] you won't any reference to pedophilia, or other such value-laden language to that effect. You certainly don't see a sentence that says, "Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and priests do not ''normally'' seek children as sexual partners.". And rightly so, because even with an abundance of examples of priests having sexually abused children, it is still not considered by any rational person to be a defining feature of priesthood in general.
::So, again, clearing up the possibility of "confusion" is not something that should be a persistent through-line of this article (which should really be focused on accurately ''describing what paraphilic infantilism is, and not what it is not''). If anything, explaining the differences between paraphilic infantilism and pedophilia should be relegated to its own (unbiased, well-sourced and verifiable) section or article entirely. ] (]) 18:58, 25 April 2023 (UTC)


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] - In this section, a single sentence fragment is used to indicate some authors believe that PI is a form of autoeroticism akin to autogynaephilia. There are three sources, one of which is a letter to the editor not written by any of the four authors cited above. This clearly suggests that the theory has some respect and thus is not a fringe theory.


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== Petition to remove, replace or localize value-laden, inaccurate, biased or otherwise dated terminology. ==
In none of these three cases is the citation lengthy. In the first and third it is ] as an opinion. There does not seem to be any scholarly consensus for the cause, or relationship between PI and any other disorders. In all cases, alternatives are discussed which are of approximately the same length. All the sources are peer reviewed articles or a chapter in a scholarly book. In no case has any of the theories or links been criticized in the scholarly literature that I am aware of, and no such critical sources have been presented. Particluarly when there is a lack of discussion of PI overall (noted in references , and ) this is not undue weight. The sources are used for different purposes (in the first two sections to distinguish between PI and pedophilia and a proposed link to autoeroticism respectively; in the third section it proposes an ]). Given the expertise of the scholars writing (all sexologists who study and publish on paraphilias), the reliability of the sources (Oxford University Press and the '']''), and the lack of a generally accepted etiology or link to other disorders in the psychiatric/psychological community in general, this is not undue weight. It is appropriate weight given to proposed explanations by experts publishing in respected venues. I propose the undue weight and contradiction tags be removed. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 16:13, 6 December 2011 (UTC)


I would like us to examine and discuss '''the use of various terms used in this article, and whether they are appropriate in the context of our modern understanding of paraphilic infantilism as well as paraphilias and atypical sexual interests in general'''. For example:
:This is an article about infantilism, not the type of inverted pedophilia that Freund and Blanchard discuss. In their article, they never referred to the inverted pedophilia as infantilism.


1 - The word "syndrome" as used in "Adult Baby Syndrome". According to the as ''"n. a set of symptoms and signs that are usually due to a single cause (or set of related causes) and together indicate a particular physical or mental disease or disorder.".'' However, as of the ], the psychological consensus draws a clear and intention distinction between ''paraphilias'' (as a benign, but atypical sexual desire) and ''paraphilic disorders'' (as stress, impairment, or personal harm to the self or others as the result of paraphilias). Connecting those two dots makes it very clear that paraphilias like paraphilic infantilism are not in and of themselves to be considered a mental disease or psychological disorder--rendering the term "Adult Baby Syndrome" archaic, obsolete and potentially misleading in the context of the lead section.
:Misplaced Pages has a guideline to keep theories that have had neither critical review nor achieved broad acceptance - fringe theories - from being given undue weight. It sets the standard for inclusion: Per the Fringe theories guideline: "]." The essay on independent sources gives detail: ] Blanchard et all has a significant connection with Blanchard et all, and so is not independent. All five authors being cited are or were coworkers with Blanchard at CAMH.


2 - Similarly, the word "condition" as used in the section header "Relation to other conditions", may also evoke the concept of paraphilia being a "medical condition. Though admittedly this point is debatable, as "condition" is a fairly broad term on its own.
:That is, per Misplaced Pages guidelines, this fringe theory should not be mentioned at all, much less mentioned in three places, taking up 10% of the article. Only one of those sources even uses the word 'infantilism' at all. That one uses it only five times - as many times as it is used in this article in text dedicated to this fringe theory.


3 - As eluded to in the article itself, the term "psychosexual infantilism" is extremely archaic, has changed over time, and is fundamentally less descriptive than the term "paraphilic infantilism". Not only is "physchosexual infantilism" a virtually unused term in modern research or ABDL subculture context, neither Freud's (1856–1939) nor Stekel's (1868-1940) use of the term is consistent with the modern classification or understanding or infantilism, paraphilias, or the diversity of human sexual expression in general. Thus, I'm arguing that the term "psychosexual infantilism" is only relevant in a historical context, and likely doesn't belong as one of the a.k.a.'s in the lead section.
:As for the DSM, if editors won't believe me or their own eyes (pg 572 4th ed TR), they should accept that even one of WLU's experts, James Cantor, used the DSM as a reliable source to define infantilism. (Remember that WLU? This came up when you falsely accused me of putting up that citation myself. Have you ever accused me and been right?) The DSM does plainly and clearly define infantilism under the heading of masochism (not pedophilia). This widely published consensus document contradicts the fringe view being pushed here.


There may be other ways in which terminology can be clarified or improved, but I want to stress my general belief that it's both important and socially responsible that the terms used by Misplaced Pages to discuss sensitive topics adequately reflect the modern day understanding and consensus, otherwise we run the risk of further perpetuating historical systemic biases. ] (]) 00:30, 27 April 2023 (UTC)
:As for the letter to the editor, WLU omitted that it was written by Blanchard's coworker, Robert Dickey. (His CAMH email and snail mail address are clearly printed on the bottom of the page.) Notably, even though Blanchard might be the one signing Dickey's paychecks, Dickey STILL didn't cite Freund and Blanchard's paper. (He cites Blanchard's transsexualism theory, but not his inverted pedophilia theory. Exactly how many theories does Blanchard have?) Dickey also doesn't seem to use the word 'infantilism' at all.


:4 - The use of "gone wrong" or "errors" here are both further examples of value-laden and biased terminology. (From: "A variety of causes have been proposed, including altered lovemaps, imprinting gone wrong and errors in erotic targets, though there is no consensus.) These ought to be replaced with neutral language. ] (]) 00:49, 5 May 2023 (UTC)
:Per Misplaced Pages guidelines, this fringe theory should not even be discussed for inclusion, much less included in multiple places. ] (]) 04:53, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
::5 - The sentence "Additionally, infantilists may not consider themselves as suffering from a medical condition and may not want to change their behavior, a common occurrence among individuals with paraphilias" seems to imply that infantilism is a medical condition or is a behavior that needs to be corrected or avoided. Not only is this not consistent with recent psychological consensus on paraphilias according to the DSM-5, this statement feels generally biased. ] (]) 09:34, 5 May 2023 (UTC)
::Please stop citing Cantor's addition of the DSM to the list of paraphilias as if it mattered. For one thing, you keep claiming Cantor is too biased to be used as a source, but now you're citing him when it supports your position. For a second thing, that was a mistake as the DSM doesn't discuss infantilism, which I corrected and it has not been replaced. For a third, it is the ''source'' that matters, not who put it there. The DSM doesn't discuss paraphilic infantilism and it was removed and replaced. I agree that paraphilic infantilism is not pedophilia. I wrote the section that clearly states the two are not related. I've posted a making this clear. I don't think paraphilic infantilism is pedophilia, and I've the section to remove the word "pedophilia" while keeping the intent. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 11:48, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
:::Quick note: I have implemented ''some'' of these changes.
:::Cantor used the DSM as an RS to define infantilism. WLU replaced it. Who is supposed to be the expert here? ] (]) 14:33, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
:::To me, it's very important that we do not introduce bias into this article by pathologizing benign sexual fetishes (as is consistent with the declassification of fetishes in the DSM-5), associating legitimate sexual expression with crime, or giving undue weight to "confusion" by disingenuously or erroneously conflating paraphilic infantilism with totally unrelated, and in some cases deeply stigmatized or taboo, sexual behaviors.
::::Cantor used the DSM, so what? It's not used currently, he hasn't replaced it, and Cantor is not the boss of wikipedia or arbiter of sources. Misplaced Pages is not based on expertise, it's based on reliable sources. In no case is anyone allowed to change a page based on their personal expertise - it's always based on the content of sources. I completely fail to see the relevance of continuing to post that diff anywhere on wikipedia. The worst thing that you can say is a single editor made an error in sourcing, and it was corrected. Continuing to bring it up serves absolutely no purpose and clarifies no sources that I can see. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 14:54, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
:::In fact, we should take it a step further and depathologize, decriminalize and destigmatize the language in this article in favor of truly fair, accurate and neutral descriptions.
:::::But he is the first-listed author in the only source even distantly connecting the fringe theory to infantilism. Either Cantor was competent or incompetent. If you believe he was competent, accept the relevance of the DSM as a widely published, medical, consensus document that lists infantilism under masochism, not pedophilia, thus contradicting the fringe theory. If you believe he was incompetent, biased, editing in bad faith, etc., you shouldn't be pushing this fringe theory, since it is only Cantor, Blanchard, et al that ties it to infantilism. Which do you believe?
:::As editors, we are not here to keep the article static and stagnant. We are here to leave it in better condition than we found it. And so, we really ought to come together to try and improve the accuracy, neutrality, verifiability and overall quality of this article, so that we can help the people in the future develop a better understanding of this paraphilia and fetishes like it.
:::::I also notice that you have again deleted a reference to the DSM, making that section once again completely one-sided. You've also made it appear that F&B connect their topic to paraphilic infantilism - they don't.] (]) 15:10, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
:::And not only because "knowledge is power" and the truth is important, but also because there is a ''human side'' to sexuality, fetishism, and the long history of shame and stigmatization that has lead to many past injustices. ] (]) 03:42, 9 May 2023 (UTC)
::::::Can you point to the wikipedia policy which states that the action of a wikipedia editor has any bearing on the reliability of a source? I believe we seek ], and we verify using reliable sources. I believe the actions of an editor are completely irrelevant to the reliability of their publications. I also am quite certain that the DSM doesn't discuss paraphilic infantilism.
::::::If paraphilic infantilism is pretending to be a baby, "masochistic gynaephiles who habitually imagine themselves as little boys or babies in sexual fantasies involving adult women" seems to apply - and this reference is used to discuss paraphilic infantilism in Cantor et al. 2008 - see page , second column, middle paragraph:
{{quote|Freund and Blanchard (1993) referred to this characteristic as an ''erotic target location error''...They interpret infantilism as an erotic target location error for persons whose erotic target is children, that is, infantilism as an autoerotic form of epdophilia.}}
::::::So I could also use Cantor et al. 2008 to source this if that is your preference, since it is explicit on the link to infantilism. You lose the distinction between PI and pedophilia though - F&B is quite clear the two are different, pedophilia seeks the child as a sexual partner, paraphilic infantilists seek to act like children, with adult partners or alone. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 15:19, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
:::::::Cantor et al. 2008 is already used, it is just listed as Cantor et al. 2009. You might wish to actually read these sources. My hope is that others will check the sources for themselves, since your handling of them leaves much to be desired. For example, why are you bringing up "masochistic gynaephiles" if asserting that infantilism is a type of pedophilia, not masochism? ] (]) 16:15, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
::::::::The google books page for the version linked gives the year as . I have edited to make the distinction between PI and pedophilia clear , . I also support the inclusion of text that infantilism may come in masochistic and nonmasochistic varieties . I would also like others to verify and engage with the sources, but your consistent accusations of bad faith will reduce the number of editors willing to engage. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 16:35, 7 December 2011 (UTC)
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WLU, please skip the accusations and claims of "subtle, nuanced issues" too mysterious for other editors to understand. The relevant Misplaced Pages policies are clear and simple. This is an article about infantilism, not whatever Freund and Blanchard discuss. In their article, they never referred to it as infantilism. The minimum standard for inclusion is set by the fringe theories guideline: "]." The essay on independent sources gives detail: ] Blanchard et all has a significant connection with Blanchard et all, and so is not independent. All five authors being cited are or were coworkers with Blanchard at CAMH.


== Criminology is not relevant to the topic. ==
WLU, if you have any independent sources for this fringe theory, why don't you share them? If you don't, accept that Misplaced Pages guidelines don't permit the inclusion of that fringe theory - much less in multiple places in the article. ] (]) 03:03, 8 December 2011 (UTC)


Among other issues, this article contains a line that reads, "Criminologists Stephen and Ronald Holmes believe that while there is no simple answer to the origins of infantilism, the practices may involve an element of stress reduction similar to that of transvestism."
:Note discussion at ]. ] (]) 21:53, 11 December 2011 (UTC)


However, paraphilic infantilism is '''not''' a crime, nor is it typically associated with crime. As such, I fail to see the relevance of criminology and the quoted opinion. It should be removed. ] (]) 03:37, 4 May 2023 (UTC)
== Source ==


:(This comment is a quote from a user page who keeps adding this back without first discussing it here.)
:Let me go ahead and quote for you chapter 4 of "Sex Crimes" on "Nuisance Sex Behaviors" (a completely made up weasel word, and the chapter which mentions fetishes and infantilism):
:WLU, if you want to keep that fringe theory you have been pushing, you'll need sources that support FB&B that infantilism is autoerotic pedophilia. This source (already cited) says pretty much the opposite. However, if your sole intention was to share a link to yet another source that opposes that fringe theory, that is OK. Of course, there is a more expedient way to take care of that... ] (]) 03:16, 10 December 2011 (UTC)
:"There are many sexual behvaiors that are completely abhorrent to the senses of most Americans. These practices become more visible as scores of sex offenders are placed in correctional institutions throughout the United States. there is a growing amount of serious literature that suggests that many rapist, lust murderers, and sexually motivated serial murderers have histories of sexual behaviors that reflect patterns that in the past have been considered only nuisances. Nuisance sex behaviors are often viewed in a less serious fashion than sex crimes that cause serious trauma and death. But there may be great benefit in analyzing those who commit such nuisance sex acts; such analysis may indeed hold the key to understanding those who move into more serious sex offenses." (Sex Crimes, Page 63. Emphasis mine.)
::Oh, and WLU, before you make any more accusations that I'm misrepresenting sources, be aware that that "misrepresentation" is almost exactly the text you have been edit warring for months to keep:"infantilism is an autoerotic form of paedophilia" (). The exact quote from CB&B (the only source connecting F&B to infantilism) is "They interpreted ...infantilism as an autoerotic form of pedophilia." To connect it to text saying something else would be to misrepresent it. However, violating WP:FRINGE also misrepresents the sources - as something other than a fringe theory without any independent sources; just F&B (Blanchard et al) and CB&B (Blanchard et al). ] (]) 20:14, 10 December 2011 (UTC)
:This source is book on sex crimes written by criminologists. It is explicitly about crime, written by people whose expertise is on crime (and not on the psychological or biological origins of paraphilias). Furthermore, it broadly and explicitly links what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" to crime, a category under which "infantilism" is later defined. And what insight to they have into the origins of infantilism? Practically nothing of value; three sentences of unsourced suppositions, with no new data, no original or cited research, and nothing of value behind it:
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:"Why does one choose to practice infantilism? There is no simple answer to this question. At first blush, one would think it is totally sexual. But there does appear to be an element of street reduction for the practitioner of this form of sexual activity." (Sex Crimes, Page 81)
:That's it. That doesn't even qualify as a "theory" on the origins of paraphilic infantilism. It's simply a short statement about the motivations of participants. Do you honestly believe that this little blurb carries any due weight when compared to actual theories on the psychological origins of paraphilias born out of psychological and psychiatric research?
:This source is absolutely worthless at best, and at worst is explicitly associating non-normative sexual behaviors with some of the worst acts of violent crime without any evidence. I will be removing it again, and adding this comment into the talk page where others can see it, and if you add it again despite my well-reasoned objections without engaging in a discussion first, I will have no other choice but to take it to arbitration. ] (]) 21:53, 14 June 2023 (UTC)
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:Again, just because the authors of that book/source are criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal. <nowiki>https://books.google.com/books?id=_zqOsZSZxYQC&pg=PA81#v=onepage&q&f=false</nowiki> A blurb on the page says “This form of paraphilia should not be confused with any form of sexual child abuse, pedophilia, incest, or other forms of child molestation.” So I don’t see what you are saying, the authors themselves are making it very clear that that paraphilia in and of itself shouldn’t be confused with those heinous crimes, and they don’t consider it a crime. “Furthermore, it broadly and explicitly links what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" to crime, a category under which "infantilism" is later defined.” I do not see them as doing that due to them specifically making it clear on the page cited that the paraphilia should be separated from those crimes & not confused with them, and not mentioning infantilism anywhere else.
:If you have a problem with the word criminologists being put in the article, I’ll say that what you consider broken clocks can be right twice a day, and again repeat that those criminologists, researchers in crime, explicitly say that the paraphilia shouldn’t be confused with crime, and even say practitioners of the activity are consenting adult partners, “Practitioners are called adult babies (Abs), diaper lovers (DIs), and consenting partners.” . Consider the fact that they are including the paraphilia in that book specifically to differentiate it between those actual harmful crimes and make that clear to the audience who may be confused, which I hope you can agree is an understandable reaction and confusion.
:Yes, it is not a full fledged theory, but I don’t think that warrants taking it out of the article altogether, and may I also mention that all the other sources and cites aren’t completely in depth “actual theories on the psychological origins of paraphilias born out of psychological and psychiatric research,” partly due to the dearth of more complete research and sources. It’s a blurb but a blurb that proposes new possible causes/relations to this paraphilia, stress reduction and relation to transvestivism(“Why does one choose to practice infantilism? There is no simple answer to this question. At first blush, one would think it is totally sexual. But there does appear to be an element of stress reduction for the practitioner of this form of sexual activity. This is similar to an element that is present in the practice of transvestivism.”) And as said above in the article, “Research on the
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: of paraphilias in general is minimal and as of 2008 had essentially come to a standstill; it is not clear whether the development of infantilism shares a common cause with other paraphilias.“(40 can be accessed through
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:) There is only one other bit within the article that mentions a possible cause being linked to ‘transvestism,’ and none to stress management/reduction, and this does not appear to be a well researched topic/area(I searched for sources and citations and much of what I found was already in the article.)”
:] (]) 03:52, 15 June 2023 (UTC)
::I can see now that you're a good faith participant in editing this page, so thank you for joining the discussion here. I know it's not convenient to participate in these talk-pages because they are really slow moving, but it's worth doing to separate genuine attempts to improve the article from drive-by edits. To that point, I want you to understand that this page is not infrequently vandalized by bad-faith editors who seemingly want nothing more than to conflate paraphilic infantilism with (a) pedophilia, (b) sex crimes and (c) mental illness. A quick look at the revision history or even in this talk page will might shed some light on this.
::At the very least, I hope the editors of this page can acknowledge the '''basic set of facts''' that (a) paraphilic infantilism is a consensual sexual interest/kink/fetish/roleplay between adults, which is in no way associated with pedophilia, (b) that there is no connection between paraphilic infantilism and any crime, and (c) that there is not necessarily a connection between paraphilic infantilism and mental illness or poor mental health. -- Should high-quality, verifiable sources challenge this set of facts, then that should be also reflected in the article, but from the research and sources that we have right now that doesn't appear to be the case.
::One of the main pillars of Misplaced Pages editing is to present relevant facts and opinions with a ]. Among other things, this means avoiding value-laden language that (intentionally or otherwise) muddies the water around a topic. In the context of this article, to me that means sticking to the verifiable facts and avoiding the use of words that conflate paraphilic infantilism with crime or medical pathology.
::I ''personally'' still don't feel that the source in question is high-quality, verifiable, or meets the bar for expertise in the subject of psychological/biological etiology of fetishes (especially when compared to the other theories that are already). But, like you pointed out, the research on this topic is sparse and because of that the bar for sources is still relatively low right now. I also don't think you've adequately defended the source's linking of "nuisance sex behaviors" to "more series sex offenses", which is not only self-contradictory to the excerpt that you shared, but is also inherently problematic, especially when considering how little real data/evidence that is used to back up that claim...
::BUT, if ''you'' feel strongly that there is meaningful, valuable insight that this source brings to the table when it comes to stress relief or links to "transvestivism", then I don't have a problem with you adding that information to the appropriate sections and referencing this source. All that I ask is that you do so in a way that is neutral and avoids conflating paraphilic infantilism with crime. If that means removing the "Criminologists Stephen and Ronald Holmes" part of the sentence and working this information into the article in a more natural way, then I can live with that.
::Sorry for writing a wall of text, but is that a reasonable compromise? ] (]) 21:18, 15 June 2023 (UTC)
:::Again, I don’t see the problem with that excerpt. They explicitly state that the reader should not assume otherwise, contrary to whatever section of the book it’s in. Just because it’s in that section doesn’t mean the authors imply that’s always the case, especially if they ''clearly'' state otherwise. Just because they are Criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal or crime, sometimes they may be differentiating or making things clear, and if readers of the wiki article check the source they’ll know that. I don’t see a need for compromise, because I don’t see a major problem to begin with. ] (]) 09:35, 18 June 2023 (UTC)
::::Ok, this discussion is going in circles...
::::To be very clear, ''my problems'' with the source is that they are (a; undue weight) not experts in the fields of psychology, psychiatry, sexology, biology, or any other field that can shed light on the origins or etiology of paraphilias, (b; 'criminalization', for lack of a better term) very explicitly, and yet without any real evidence, associating what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" with sex crimes, despite the fact that's it's counter to the facts, and (c; low-quality source) the extent of the content in that source is little more than two vague sentences and no real data or insight.
::::Readers should not have to research every source themselves (and they won't, by the way) to understand and interpret what is being said. It is the "job" of the editor to find high quality, verifiable sources and to present that information to the reader in an accurate, clear, informative and unbiased way. Even if you really believe that the source in question doesn't conflate atypical sexual interests with sex crimes (which it very clearly does, again, see the quote above), that only makes it ''more'' important for the editors of this page to also not do so.
::::The "need for compromise" comes from the fact that you are seemingly adamant about including a line about crimonology in this wikipedia article, despite the fact that it's neither relevant to the article, nor is it even linking to a high quality source. Unfortunately, saying the same things over and over again is not going to get us anywhere. I'm against it, and I have laid out very clearly why. If you can't address my problems with the source, and if we can't find a compromise that you and I are both happy with, then we will have no choice but to find outside arbitration.
::::In light of the wikipedia editing guideline, the burden of justifying why this source and the word "criminologists" should be included in this article are on you. And even though the bar is pretty low right now, I feel confident that the arguments against including them are stronger. ] (]) 16:08, 19 June 2023 (UTC)
:::::If I can provide a ] here, albeit an unsolicited one, I think that Fuwa has the better end of the policy stick here: for someone whose name and edit history suggests that they could be considered an SPA on this and related subjects, they seem to have a good grasp on the relevant policy considerations. Having looked at the specifics of the wording ( for those who might come upon this discussion next--thank you justanotherguy54, for not edit warring over this after the second revert, btw) I have to agree that the wording was non-neutral and problematically suggestive. Jag54, with regard to a sentence that starts with {{tq|"] Stephen and Ronald Holmes believe that while there is no simple answer to the origins of infantilism..."}}, I feel that {{tq|"Just because they are Criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal or crime, sometimes they may be differentiating or making things clear, and if readers of the wiki article check the source they’ll know that. I don’t see a need for compromise, because I don’t see a major problem to begin with."}}, considerably underappreciates the concerns here. Yes, criminologists may at times make observations outside the narrow constraints of criminality or criminal justice, but in the context of an encyclopedia article, the reader is most definitely primed to contextualize any quote that begins by stating the quoted parties field of inquiry as pertaining to said specialty. I think it very much muddies the waters.


:::::As to the argument that the nuances will become immediately apparent to anyone who follows up on the source, well, the simple reality is that while, as encyclopedists, we would always advise a reader to check into the sources, the vast majority simply do not, which is one of several important reasons that we construct our content to be as facially neutral as possible in the first impression. Further, I think Fuwas proposed compromise is a more than fair middle ground: there's a decent ]/] argument to be made here for excluding this quasi-armchair psychology altogether, so if Fuwa is proposing to maintain it, but suggests merely that the most potentially misleading and problematic part me excised, I think that's reasonable. Mind you, this is a bit of an atypical case: often one of the first things you want to consider doing when the neutrality of a statement is in question is ask whether better attribution will fix the issue. But every rule has it's exceptions, and I think this is a good example of that principle.
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:::::I do think it's only fair that I note that I am here by way of looking at old contributions of FlyerReborn, since deceased, who voiced an opinion on related issues above. So it may be that I am operating from a bias here, but I don't think so: I think I would have viewed the issues here in the same way even had I not seen her feedback. Indeed, Flyer actually seems to have argued in the other direction to some extent, insofar as she was in favour of maintaining certain other references to deviance (albeit by virtue of pointing out the lack of connection between this paraphilia and certain psychological pathologies/criminal offenses). But those were different cases and the functions of those references are very valuable for clarifying matters for the reader, whereas I think the disputed language in this instance actually implies a link and thereby confuses the issue. '']]'' 10:13, 29 June 2023 (UTC)
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:::::::I'm really not sure why @] is so hell-bent on adding this passage even though the consensus seems to be that the source is weak and that criminologists are being given undue weight in the context of the psychiatric, psychological and sexological origins of paraphilia...
:::::::I wonder if this isn't something we need further mediation to handle, because it seems like we've now lost the thread of communication on this issue, leaving only an edit war. ] (]) 09:20, 17 December 2023 (UTC)


== Is "TB/DL" appropriate for inclusion? If so, how should it be included? ==
== Ongoing ownership issues ==


In a recent edit I removed a clumsily tacked on bit describing "TB/DL", which is "AB/DL" expression ''when practiced by people below the age of consent''.
While I'm neutral about a recent edit by an IP, I would have tended to keep it as a good faith edit, and to encourage new contributors. (Well, after removing the one extra coma for a coma-separated list, or switching the other comas to semicolons, that is.) WLU's version of the article could benefit from improvements by others: Improvements which won't occur if he continues to demonstrate a sense of ] by reverting changes by others. This has been brought up before. WLU's only response was to make accusations on another board, accusations that he then need to retract because they were based on assumptions of ill will.)


The main reason for my reversion of this change was grammatical and to preserve readability, but as these terms a may refer to a potentially sexual activity of minors it's also worth being careful and precise with how this kind of content is handled (both for the safety of minors, and to prevent any unnecessary confusion or conflation of ''adult'' paraphilic infantilism with minors).
WLU's given motivation for quickly reverting back to his own version, "they'd be diaper lovers, not infantilists", is not valid. The nearby link to diaper lovers redirects to the ] article, which defines it as "a sexual fetish." Those who "enjoy the diapers in a non-sexual way, and do not identify as adult babies" would then not be simply grouped as diaper fetishists.


As this page is mainly focused on adult expression so far, personally I'm not sure that "TB/DL" is appropriate for inclusion and may instead warrant ''its own page'', so as to not muddy the waters or over-complicate things.
WLU, I believe it is time you stepped back and let others edit. ] (]) 05:25, 30 January 2012 (UTC)
:The IP made an edit without a source and the nearest source to it doesn't verify the text. I removed it per ]. I've never seen this "fifth type" mentioned in the sources. ] <small>] ] Misplaced Pages's rules:</small>]/] 22:57, 30 January 2012 (UTC)
::WLU, you wrote then that you removed it because "they'd be diaper lovers, not infantilists", with no mention of WP:PROVEIT. Yesterday you wrote that the reversion was due to categorization, and today you write that it was due to sourcing. So is the reason you gave initially untrue? Or is the reason you are giving now - or both reasons - untrue? What is the real reason you reverted back to your own version? WP:AGF doesn't apply when an editor is offering multiple, contradictory justifications for his actions. We can't assume your good faith. You reverted another editor's good-faith edit and are now waffling on your justification. Again, I believe it is time you stepped back and let others edit. ] (]) 01:36, 31 January 2012 (UTC)
:::Please note ] about WLU's ownership issues.] (]) 22:24, 25 March 2012 (UTC)


However if you feel that "TB/DL" is appropriate for inclusion in this page, please make your case here and describe how it should be done in accordance with the goals and standards of Misplaced Pages. ] (]) 18:10, 25 May 2024 (UTC)
== Fruend and Blanchard's Paedophilia article doesn't belong here ==


:What would be put on a supposed “TB/DL" page if that term refers to minors under the age of consent? Not appropriate for inclusion anywhere. ] (]) 13:50, 4 June 2024 (UTC)
F&B's "Erotic target location errors in male gender dysphorics, paedophiles, and fetishists." is about, according to the very first line "A clinical series of male paedophiles..." The article doesn't mention "infantilism" at all. In contrast, "paedophile" or "paedophilic" occur 16 times, including the title. The article claims to be about pedophiles, not infantilists. The DSM and many, many other sources clearly differentiate between infantilism and pedophilia. Unless part of some assertion that infantilism is a form of pedophilia - an ] not supported by any independent sources - F&B doesn't belong here. ] (]) 22:15, 25 March 2012 (UTC)

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Regarding pedophilia to child sexual abuse.

Pedophilia should not be directly related to child sexual abuse as pedophilia is the sexual attraction to children, not the act of causing harm to them. The overall feel of this section is that a pedophile cannot behave towards a child in a protective manner and this is an ill-perceived ideal based on stereotype.

It's the same as saying everyone who thinks about suicide kills themselves.

115.198.94.160 (talk) 16:59, 14 February 2014 (UTC)

I don't think pedophilia has any relevance or should be mentioned in this article at all. Saying something is "not" something doesn't really belong. Paraphilic infantilism is not driving a monster truck, either. But we don't need to say it in the article. Sure, there may be some idiots out there who commonly confuse paraphilic infantilism with driving monster trucks, but I do not see that we cater on wikipedia in an article to saying everything under a sun something is not. You do not define something by listing out everything it is *not*, but rather, what it is. Move to delete reference to pedophilia as having nothing to do with the article. 71.226.11.248 (talk) 07:18, 22 May 2014 (UTC)

Since paraphilic infantilism is commonly confused with pedophilia, so commonly confused with it, apparently, that WP:Reliable sources address the matter, it is WP:Due weight (very appropriate) that the article addresses this misconception. Flyer22 (talk) 07:29, 22 May 2014 (UTC)
I have changed "infantilism is not related to pedophilia, or any other form of child sexual abuse" to "infantilism is not related to pedophilia, or any form of child sexual abuse", because the word "other" implied that pedophilia is a form of child abuse which it is not. 31.52.253.135 (talk) 13:34, 14 May 2016 (UTC)
"Commonly confused" by who, exactly?
First, this appears to be a straight-forward example of weasel words and unsupported attribution, as it is effectively the same as vaguely declaring that "some are said to believe", "many people say", "x has been described as y", etc. But, who exactly are these people who confuse paraphilic infantilism with pedophilia, how common is "common", and most importantly, why is their confusion and misconceptions credible or noteworthy?
I'm also reminded of the phase "teach the controversy"; from a movement in which unscientific opinions were suggested to be given comparable weight and credibility as scientific fact. And yet, if we look at the Misplaced Pages article on evolution, it should be noted that there is no mention of the pseudo-scientific theory of intelligent design outside of the very last paragraph of the last section, concerning "Social and Cultural Responses".
In my view that approach is appropriate, because it is not the role of an encyclopedia to imbue all ideas with equal weight, but instead to primarily present objective facts and credible viewpoints from verifiable sources.
Finally, on top of the fact that there is no credible or verifiable association between paraphilic infantilism and pedophilia, the label of "pedophile" itself is an extremely value-laden label. These kinds of labels, especially when misapplied, can do real damage to the health and safety of people as well as the ability for society at large to understand and discuss the true diversity or human experience.
It's for these reasons that I also strongly argue to remove the vague and dubious references to pedophilia from this article as being totally irrelevant and given undue weight compared to objective facts and credible, modern and verifiable viewpoints.
(If anything, "teaching the controversy" in which paraphilic infantilism is confused with pedophilia should be relegated to a specific section of the article. But only if there is a legitimate and reasonable basis to give weight to such an obvious misconception. In my view it's long past due that those who want to include references to pedophilia in this article justify doing so with something more credible than weasel words, lest this very article becomes a vector for propagating this harmful and factually baseless misconception.) FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 08:41, 25 April 2023 (UTC)
commented added on behalf of FuwaFuwaDL 0xDeadbeef→∞ (talk to me) 12:52, 25 April 2023 (UTC)

It is not important but I feel that you do not understand English correctly. "infantilism is not related to paedophilia, or any other form of sexual abuse of children" implies that paedophilia is a form of child abuse, which is not contrary to the usual understanding of the matter, so the sentence could remain in this form. To imply that infantilism is a form of child abuse you would have to write "paedophilia is not related to infantilism, or any other form of sexual abuse of children". — Preceding unsigned comment added by 82.37.54.83 (talk) 23:37, 10 July 2016 (UTC)

I've added a reference to a new (2019) study indicating that there is no correlation between infantilism and pedophilic interests. I've also removed the language "infantilism is commonly confused with pedophilia" from the introduction (where no source was cited) and revised it in the main text (where the source cited was from 1991). If the article were to assert that this confusion is common, I'd think it would have to cite a more recent source to show that the confusion remains commmon. Otherwise there is a problem with Misplaced Pages:Avoid weasel words. The current policy on WP:Reliable sources doesn't appear to address this issue. HighStdDev (talk) 16:53, 9 October 2019 (UTC)
Reverted. Per WP:MEDRS, we should not be basing content on some new primary source study. And we include historical views, such as John Money's. Whether such views should be regulated to the "History" section is something to consider. Either way, without your addition, the article is already clear that paraphilic infantilism is not the same thing as pedophilia. As for citing that the confusion is common, which it clearly is and is why you felt the need to add the study you added, I will see about sourcing that with a newer WP:MEDRS-compliant source later on. Flyer22 Reborn (talk) 03:55, 10 October 2019 (UTC)
(1) There are a lot of primary sources in the reference list of the article currently, the WP:MEDRS policy on primary sources not withstanding. If this article can cite a case study, I don't see why it can't cite a survey study with over a thousand subjects. Is there a suitably neutral way of including the finding in Fuss et al. somewhere in this article? Perhaps a direct quotation?
(2) I really think the paragraph on Money's views in the "pedophilia" section has to be removed or modified. As written, it is making a speculative allegation about diaper fetishists, using the word "may," that would be Defamation per se if said about a named individual. Can the claim about diaper fetishists be removed from this paragraph, leaving behind the unproblematic comment about Money's view of infantilism?
(3) Consider "sometimes confused" rather than "commonly confused" if a neutral, recent source can't be found. HighStdDev (talk) 06:14, 10 October 2019 (UTC)
Yes, there are a lot of primary sources in the article. And when someone has argued that regarding other articles, my response has been that existing poor sources and/or content does not mean that it is okay to add more poor sources and/or poor content. Furthermore, primary-sourced content based on older sources is much more likely to be covered in secondary and/or tertiary academic sources than a primary source from the current year is. I haven't edited this article much, but if I ever get around to doing so, it would include replacing the primary sources with secondary and tertiary sources where possible without losing important content. I might need to do that even if I'd rather not take the time to do it; this is so that the article adheres to WP:MEDRS as best it can (which may sometimes mean retaining a primary source here and there, per WP:MEDDATE), to help keep out poor or WP:Fringe content. If there is any content in the article that falls under WP:Fringe, we should consider how best to present that material or to remove it. But when it comes to early/historical sexological views, even if they are fringe, we should include those in some way. For example, Money's Lovemap theory is something we should cover. I changed the aforementioned Money text from "states" to "argued." I think that with the WP:In-text attribution and the use of "argued" and "may," it's clear that this is Money's opinion. It's not presented as fact. It seems to fit in that section because the sentence briefly addresses sexual attraction to diaper-wearing babies, and it doesn't seem he was referring to people with that attraction being sexually oriented toward adults in any way. Flyer22 Reborn (talk) 01:30, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
I take your point about adding further primary sources. The paragraph on Money needed further editing. As written, the passage suggested that Money thought that (some? all?) diaper fetishists "may be" nepiophiles. That is a shocking accusation, bordering on libel, if he indeed took that view. I was not able to find the Money book cited in this passage, but I was able to find Money's definition of "autonepiophilia" in Lovemaps (p. 259). There, he defines the terms "autonepiophilia" and "nepiophilia" without saying anything about diaper fetishists. I've edited the passage on Money so that it makes no mention of diaper fetishists. I trust this is OK, since diaper fetishism is not the topic of this article. HighStdDev (talk) 02:06, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
With this edit, you removed the "Money argued" piece. If he did argue that diaper fetishists may be sexually attracted to diaper-wearing babies, that is his argument and would still be his argument even if in the Diaper fetishism article. Whether or not to include the material is not a matter of libel. Unless speaking of libel in terms of some WP:BLP matter, libel has nothing to do with how we write Misplaced Pages articles; see, for example, WP:No legal threats. Diaper fetishism is a related topic, which is why it's mentioned in the lead and there is a section on it in this article. The Money bit you removed can go there, where Money is already mentioned. Flyer22 Reborn (talk) 03:13, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
But, yes, without being sure if he made the argument and since the piece is not vital, we can leave it out. Flyer22 Reborn (talk) 03:21, 11 October 2019 (UTC)

Infantilist found guilty of kidnap, rape and torture of child

In light of the David Challenor case should the sentence

"Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and infantilists do not seek children as sexual partners."

not be amended to read

"Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and infantilists do not normally seek children as sexual partners."

I'm hesitant to edit the article as I don't know if someone is actively managing it and whether this would require some additional information on how different paraphilias can be present in the same person, but I think this should be amended (especially since this is not the only conviction of an infantilist in relation to children).Small candles (talk) 14:43, 2 September 2018 (UTC)

Content should be based on what the literature states, not on some news headline. That stated, child molesters come from a variety of backgrounds. It is obviously incorrect to imply that an infantilist can never be sexually interested in little children. Those familiar with the literature on pedophilia and child sexual abuse topics know that it's not even the case that everyone is who has sexually abused a little kid is technically a pedophile; the Pedophilia article addresses this. So feel free to add "normally." I'm not going to revert. Flyer22 Reborn (talk) 06:06, 3 September 2018 (UTC)
All this conversation does is prove just how completely out-of-place, and potentially loaded, the above sentence is.
Any category of person, or member of any group, has the possibility of being a pedophile (or a rapist, murderer, or on the positive side, an olympic athlete, renowned artist, astronaut, etc.), but that obviously does not warrant the weight of inclusion without solid evidence of a genuine connection, correlation or causation.
For example, there have been countless documented examples of priests having sexually abused children, but if you check the article on priests you won't any reference to pedophilia, or other such value-laden language to that effect. You certainly don't see a sentence that says, "Though commonly confused with pedophilia, the two conditions are distinct and priests do not normally seek children as sexual partners.". And rightly so, because even with an abundance of examples of priests having sexually abused children, it is still not considered by any rational person to be a defining feature of priesthood in general.
So, again, clearing up the possibility of "confusion" is not something that should be a persistent through-line of this article (which should really be focused on accurately describing what paraphilic infantilism is, and not what it is not). If anything, explaining the differences between paraphilic infantilism and pedophilia should be relegated to its own (unbiased, well-sourced and verifiable) section or article entirely. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 18:58, 25 April 2023 (UTC)

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Petition to remove, replace or localize value-laden, inaccurate, biased or otherwise dated terminology.

I would like us to examine and discuss the use of various terms used in this article, and whether they are appropriate in the context of our modern understanding of paraphilic infantilism as well as paraphilias and atypical sexual interests in general. For example:

1 - The word "syndrome" as used in "Adult Baby Syndrome". According to the American Psychological Association's Dictionary of Psychology a "syndrome" is defined as "n. a set of symptoms and signs that are usually due to a single cause (or set of related causes) and together indicate a particular physical or mental disease or disorder.". However, as of the DSM-5, the psychological consensus draws a clear and intention distinction between paraphilias (as a benign, but atypical sexual desire) and paraphilic disorders (as stress, impairment, or personal harm to the self or others as the result of paraphilias). Connecting those two dots makes it very clear that paraphilias like paraphilic infantilism are not in and of themselves to be considered a mental disease or psychological disorder--rendering the term "Adult Baby Syndrome" archaic, obsolete and potentially misleading in the context of the lead section.

2 - Similarly, the word "condition" as used in the section header "Relation to other conditions", may also evoke the concept of paraphilia being a "medical condition. Though admittedly this point is debatable, as "condition" is a fairly broad term on its own.

3 - As eluded to in the article itself, the term "psychosexual infantilism" is extremely archaic, has changed over time, and is fundamentally less descriptive than the term "paraphilic infantilism". Not only is "physchosexual infantilism" a virtually unused term in modern research or ABDL subculture context, neither Freud's (1856–1939) nor Stekel's (1868-1940) use of the term is consistent with the modern classification or understanding or infantilism, paraphilias, or the diversity of human sexual expression in general. Thus, I'm arguing that the term "psychosexual infantilism" is only relevant in a historical context, and likely doesn't belong as one of the a.k.a.'s in the lead section.

There may be other ways in which terminology can be clarified or improved, but I want to stress my general belief that it's both important and socially responsible that the terms used by Misplaced Pages to discuss sensitive topics adequately reflect the modern day understanding and consensus, otherwise we run the risk of further perpetuating historical systemic biases. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 00:30, 27 April 2023 (UTC)

4 - The use of "gone wrong" or "errors" here are both further examples of value-laden and biased terminology. (From: "A variety of causes have been proposed, including altered lovemaps, imprinting gone wrong and errors in erotic targets, though there is no consensus.) These ought to be replaced with neutral language. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 00:49, 5 May 2023 (UTC)
5 - The sentence "Additionally, infantilists may not consider themselves as suffering from a medical condition and may not want to change their behavior, a common occurrence among individuals with paraphilias" seems to imply that infantilism is a medical condition or is a behavior that needs to be corrected or avoided. Not only is this not consistent with recent psychological consensus on paraphilias according to the DSM-5, this statement feels generally biased. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 09:34, 5 May 2023 (UTC)
Quick note: I have implemented some of these changes.
To me, it's very important that we do not introduce bias into this article by pathologizing benign sexual fetishes (as is consistent with the declassification of fetishes in the DSM-5), associating legitimate sexual expression with crime, or giving undue weight to "confusion" by disingenuously or erroneously conflating paraphilic infantilism with totally unrelated, and in some cases deeply stigmatized or taboo, sexual behaviors.
In fact, we should take it a step further and depathologize, decriminalize and destigmatize the language in this article in favor of truly fair, accurate and neutral descriptions.
As editors, we are not here to keep the article static and stagnant. We are here to leave it in better condition than we found it. And so, we really ought to come together to try and improve the accuracy, neutrality, verifiability and overall quality of this article, so that we can help the people in the future develop a better understanding of this paraphilia and fetishes like it.
And not only because "knowledge is power" and the truth is important, but also because there is a human side to sexuality, fetishism, and the long history of shame and stigmatization that has lead to many past injustices. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 03:42, 9 May 2023 (UTC)

Criminology is not relevant to the topic.

Among other issues, this article contains a line that reads, "Criminologists Stephen and Ronald Holmes believe that while there is no simple answer to the origins of infantilism, the practices may involve an element of stress reduction similar to that of transvestism."

However, paraphilic infantilism is not a crime, nor is it typically associated with crime. As such, I fail to see the relevance of criminology and the quoted opinion. It should be removed. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 03:37, 4 May 2023 (UTC)

(This comment is a quote from a user page who keeps adding this back without first discussing it here.)
Let me go ahead and quote for you chapter 4 of "Sex Crimes" on "Nuisance Sex Behaviors" (a completely made up weasel word, and the chapter which mentions fetishes and infantilism):
"There are many sexual behvaiors that are completely abhorrent to the senses of most Americans. These practices become more visible as scores of sex offenders are placed in correctional institutions throughout the United States. there is a growing amount of serious literature that suggests that many rapist, lust murderers, and sexually motivated serial murderers have histories of sexual behaviors that reflect patterns that in the past have been considered only nuisances. Nuisance sex behaviors are often viewed in a less serious fashion than sex crimes that cause serious trauma and death. But there may be great benefit in analyzing those who commit such nuisance sex acts; such analysis may indeed hold the key to understanding those who move into more serious sex offenses." (Sex Crimes, Page 63. Emphasis mine.)
This source is book on sex crimes written by criminologists. It is explicitly about crime, written by people whose expertise is on crime (and not on the psychological or biological origins of paraphilias). Furthermore, it broadly and explicitly links what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" to crime, a category under which "infantilism" is later defined. And what insight to they have into the origins of infantilism? Practically nothing of value; three sentences of unsourced suppositions, with no new data, no original or cited research, and nothing of value behind it:
"Why does one choose to practice infantilism? There is no simple answer to this question. At first blush, one would think it is totally sexual. But there does appear to be an element of street reduction for the practitioner of this form of sexual activity." (Sex Crimes, Page 81)
That's it. That doesn't even qualify as a "theory" on the origins of paraphilic infantilism. It's simply a short statement about the motivations of participants. Do you honestly believe that this little blurb carries any due weight when compared to actual theories on the psychological origins of paraphilias born out of psychological and psychiatric research?
This source is absolutely worthless at best, and at worst is explicitly associating non-normative sexual behaviors with some of the worst acts of violent crime without any evidence. I will be removing it again, and adding this comment into the talk page where others can see it, and if you add it again despite my well-reasoned objections without engaging in a discussion first, I will have no other choice but to take it to arbitration. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 21:53, 14 June 2023 (UTC)
Copypaste from my talk page
Again, just because the authors of that book/source are criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal. https://books.google.com/books?id=_zqOsZSZxYQC&pg=PA81#v=onepage&q&f=false A blurb on the page says “This form of paraphilia should not be confused with any form of sexual child abuse, pedophilia, incest, or other forms of child molestation.” So I don’t see what you are saying, the authors themselves are making it very clear that that paraphilia in and of itself shouldn’t be confused with those heinous crimes, and they don’t consider it a crime. “Furthermore, it broadly and explicitly links what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" to crime, a category under which "infantilism" is later defined.” I do not see them as doing that due to them specifically making it clear on the page cited that the paraphilia should be separated from those crimes & not confused with them, and not mentioning infantilism anywhere else.
If you have a problem with the word criminologists being put in the article, I’ll say that what you consider broken clocks can be right twice a day, and again repeat that those criminologists, researchers in crime, explicitly say that the paraphilia shouldn’t be confused with crime, and even say practitioners of the activity are consenting adult partners, “Practitioners are called adult babies (Abs), diaper lovers (DIs), and consenting partners.” . Consider the fact that they are including the paraphilia in that book specifically to differentiate it between those actual harmful crimes and make that clear to the audience who may be confused, which I hope you can agree is an understandable reaction and confusion.
Yes, it is not a full fledged theory, but I don’t think that warrants taking it out of the article altogether, and may I also mention that all the other sources and cites aren’t completely in depth “actual theories on the psychological origins of paraphilias born out of psychological and psychiatric research,” partly due to the dearth of more complete research and sources. It’s a blurb but a blurb that proposes new possible causes/relations to this paraphilia, stress reduction and relation to transvestivism(“Why does one choose to practice infantilism? There is no simple answer to this question. At first blush, one would think it is totally sexual. But there does appear to be an element of stress reduction for the practitioner of this form of sexual activity. This is similar to an element that is present in the practice of transvestivism.”) And as said above in the article, “Research on the
etiology
of paraphilias in general is minimal and as of 2008 had essentially come to a standstill; it is not clear whether the development of infantilism shares a common cause with other paraphilias.“(40 can be accessed through
https://www.academia.edu/1909323/Handbook_of_sexual_and_gender_identity_disorders
) There is only one other bit within the article that mentions a possible cause being linked to ‘transvestism,’ and none to stress management/reduction, and this does not appear to be a well researched topic/area(I searched for sources and citations and much of what I found was already in the article.)”
Justanotherguy54 (talk) 03:52, 15 June 2023 (UTC)
I can see now that you're a good faith participant in editing this page, so thank you for joining the discussion here. I know it's not convenient to participate in these talk-pages because they are really slow moving, but it's worth doing to separate genuine attempts to improve the article from drive-by edits. To that point, I want you to understand that this page is not infrequently vandalized by bad-faith editors who seemingly want nothing more than to conflate paraphilic infantilism with (a) pedophilia, (b) sex crimes and (c) mental illness. A quick look at the revision history or even in this talk page will might shed some light on this.
At the very least, I hope the editors of this page can acknowledge the basic set of facts that (a) paraphilic infantilism is a consensual sexual interest/kink/fetish/roleplay between adults, which is in no way associated with pedophilia, (b) that there is no connection between paraphilic infantilism and any crime, and (c) that there is not necessarily a connection between paraphilic infantilism and mental illness or poor mental health. -- Should high-quality, verifiable sources challenge this set of facts, then that should be also reflected in the article, but from the research and sources that we have right now that doesn't appear to be the case.
One of the main pillars of Misplaced Pages editing is to present relevant facts and opinions with a neutral point of view. Among other things, this means avoiding value-laden language that (intentionally or otherwise) muddies the water around a topic. In the context of this article, to me that means sticking to the verifiable facts and avoiding the use of words that conflate paraphilic infantilism with crime or medical pathology.
I personally still don't feel that the source in question is high-quality, verifiable, or meets the bar for expertise in the subject of psychological/biological etiology of fetishes (especially when compared to the other theories that are already). But, like you pointed out, the research on this topic is sparse and because of that the bar for sources is still relatively low right now. I also don't think you've adequately defended the source's linking of "nuisance sex behaviors" to "more series sex offenses", which is not only self-contradictory to the excerpt that you shared, but is also inherently problematic, especially when considering how little real data/evidence that is used to back up that claim...
BUT, if you feel strongly that there is meaningful, valuable insight that this source brings to the table when it comes to stress relief or links to "transvestivism", then I don't have a problem with you adding that information to the appropriate sections and referencing this source. All that I ask is that you do so in a way that is neutral and avoids conflating paraphilic infantilism with crime. If that means removing the "Criminologists Stephen and Ronald Holmes" part of the sentence and working this information into the article in a more natural way, then I can live with that.
Sorry for writing a wall of text, but is that a reasonable compromise? FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 21:18, 15 June 2023 (UTC)
Again, I don’t see the problem with that excerpt. They explicitly state that the reader should not assume otherwise, contrary to whatever section of the book it’s in. Just because it’s in that section doesn’t mean the authors imply that’s always the case, especially if they clearly state otherwise. Just because they are Criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal or crime, sometimes they may be differentiating or making things clear, and if readers of the wiki article check the source they’ll know that. I don’t see a need for compromise, because I don’t see a major problem to begin with. Justanotherguy54 (talk) 09:35, 18 June 2023 (UTC)
Ok, this discussion is going in circles...
To be very clear, my problems with the source is that they are (a; undue weight) not experts in the fields of psychology, psychiatry, sexology, biology, or any other field that can shed light on the origins or etiology of paraphilias, (b; 'criminalization', for lack of a better term) very explicitly, and yet without any real evidence, associating what they call "nuisance sex behaviors" with sex crimes, despite the fact that's it's counter to the facts, and (c; low-quality source) the extent of the content in that source is little more than two vague sentences and no real data or insight.
Readers should not have to research every source themselves (and they won't, by the way) to understand and interpret what is being said. It is the "job" of the editor to find high quality, verifiable sources and to present that information to the reader in an accurate, clear, informative and unbiased way. Even if you really believe that the source in question doesn't conflate atypical sexual interests with sex crimes (which it very clearly does, again, see the quote above), that only makes it more important for the editors of this page to also not do so.
The "need for compromise" comes from the fact that you are seemingly adamant about including a line about crimonology in this wikipedia article, despite the fact that it's neither relevant to the article, nor is it even linking to a high quality source. Unfortunately, saying the same things over and over again is not going to get us anywhere. I'm against it, and I have laid out very clearly why. If you can't address my problems with the source, and if we can't find a compromise that you and I are both happy with, then we will have no choice but to find outside arbitration.
In light of the wikipedia editing guideline, the burden of justifying why this source and the word "criminologists" should be included in this article are on you. And even though the bar is pretty low right now, I feel confident that the arguments against including them are stronger. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 16:08, 19 June 2023 (UTC)
If I can provide a third opinion here, albeit an unsolicited one, I think that Fuwa has the better end of the policy stick here: for someone whose name and edit history suggests that they could be considered an SPA on this and related subjects, they seem to have a good grasp on the relevant policy considerations. Having looked at the specifics of the wording (diffed here for those who might come upon this discussion next--thank you justanotherguy54, for not edit warring over this after the second revert, btw) I have to agree that the wording was non-neutral and problematically suggestive. Jag54, with regard to a sentence that starts with "Criminologists Stephen and Ronald Holmes believe that while there is no simple answer to the origins of infantilism...", I feel that "Just because they are Criminologists does not mean everything they write about is criminal or crime, sometimes they may be differentiating or making things clear, and if readers of the wiki article check the source they’ll know that. I don’t see a need for compromise, because I don’t see a major problem to begin with.", considerably underappreciates the concerns here. Yes, criminologists may at times make observations outside the narrow constraints of criminality or criminal justice, but in the context of an encyclopedia article, the reader is most definitely primed to contextualize any quote that begins by stating the quoted parties field of inquiry as pertaining to said specialty. I think it very much muddies the waters.
As to the argument that the nuances will become immediately apparent to anyone who follows up on the source, well, the simple reality is that while, as encyclopedists, we would always advise a reader to check into the sources, the vast majority simply do not, which is one of several important reasons that we construct our content to be as facially neutral as possible in the first impression. Further, I think Fuwas proposed compromise is a more than fair middle ground: there's a decent WP:WEIGHT/WP:MEDRS argument to be made here for excluding this quasi-armchair psychology altogether, so if Fuwa is proposing to maintain it, but suggests merely that the most potentially misleading and problematic part me excised, I think that's reasonable. Mind you, this is a bit of an atypical case: often one of the first things you want to consider doing when the neutrality of a statement is in question is ask whether better attribution will fix the issue. But every rule has it's exceptions, and I think this is a good example of that principle.
I do think it's only fair that I note that I am here by way of looking at old contributions of FlyerReborn, since deceased, who voiced an opinion on related issues above. So it may be that I am operating from a bias here, but I don't think so: I think I would have viewed the issues here in the same way even had I not seen her feedback. Indeed, Flyer actually seems to have argued in the other direction to some extent, insofar as she was in favour of maintaining certain other references to deviance (albeit by virtue of pointing out the lack of connection between this paraphilia and certain psychological pathologies/criminal offenses). But those were different cases and the functions of those references are very valuable for clarifying matters for the reader, whereas I think the disputed language in this instance actually implies a link and thereby confuses the issue. SnowRise 10:13, 29 June 2023 (UTC)
Justanotherguy54, I'm very sorry, but I had to rollback your last two edits: they just made a complete mess of the talk page formatting and discussion, and made your new comments and the post you were trying to embed unreadable. I couldn't even figure out what was meant to go where and at what level of WP:INDENT because it was such a mess. Could you please reintroduce your thoughts through the normal UI when you have an opportunity? Also, please don't copy and paste another user's entire post again, including signature, as that only confuses matters further. Consider instead using the {{tq|quoted text}} template to quote the portions you want to respond to. Apologies: I don't like to refactor, let alone delete, another user's TP contributions, but it really was going to destroy any readability of the page. SnowRise 05:45, 2 July 2023 (UTC)
I'm really not sure why @Justanotherguy54 is so hell-bent on adding this passage even though the consensus seems to be that the source is weak and that criminologists are being given undue weight in the context of the psychiatric, psychological and sexological origins of paraphilia...
I wonder if this isn't something we need further mediation to handle, because it seems like we've now lost the thread of communication on this issue, leaving only an edit war. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 09:20, 17 December 2023 (UTC)

Is "TB/DL" appropriate for inclusion? If so, how should it be included?

In a recent edit I removed a clumsily tacked on bit describing "TB/DL", which is "AB/DL" expression when practiced by people below the age of consent.

The main reason for my reversion of this change was grammatical and to preserve readability, but as these terms a may refer to a potentially sexual activity of minors it's also worth being careful and precise with how this kind of content is handled (both for the safety of minors, and to prevent any unnecessary confusion or conflation of adult paraphilic infantilism with minors).

As this page is mainly focused on adult expression so far, personally I'm not sure that "TB/DL" is appropriate for inclusion and may instead warrant its own page, so as to not muddy the waters or over-complicate things.

However if you feel that "TB/DL" is appropriate for inclusion in this page, please make your case here and describe how it should be done in accordance with the goals and standards of Misplaced Pages. FuwaFuwaDL (talk) 18:10, 25 May 2024 (UTC)

What would be put on a supposed “TB/DL" page if that term refers to minors under the age of consent? Not appropriate for inclusion anywhere. Justanotherguy54 (talk) 13:50, 4 June 2024 (UTC)
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