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| ]s like this young man wearing a ] are traditionally renowned for their ].]] | ]s like this young man wearing a ] are traditionally renowned for their ].]] | ||
| As expectations regarding good manners differ from person to person and vary according to each situation, no treatise on the rules of ] nor any list of ] can ever be complete. As the ] of ] and actions vary, ] is essential. However, a lack of ] about the ] and ]s of people of ] can make even the best-intentioned person seem rude, foolish, or worse. | As expectations regarding good manners differ from person to person and vary according to each situation, no treatise on the rules of ] nor any list of ] can ever be complete. As the ] of ] and actions vary, ] is essential. However, a lack of ] about the ] and ]s of people of the ] can make even the best-intentioned person seem rude, foolish, or worse. | ||
| ==Religious sensibilities== | ==Religious sensibilities== | ||
| Many matters of etiquette in |
Many matters of etiquette in the Middle East are connected to ] as it is written in the ] and how it has been traditionally understood and practiced throughout the centuries. Prescribed Islamic ] is referred to as ], and described as "refinement, good manners, morals, ethics, decorum, decency, humaneness and righteousness".<ref>Firmage, Edwin Brown and Weiss, Bernard G. and Welch, John W. ''Religion and Law''. 1990, page 202-3</ref> | ||
| As such, many points discussed in this article are applicable in other regions of the ]. This holds especially true in ] countries outside |
As such, many points discussed in this article are applicable in other regions of the ]. This holds especially true in ] countries outside Middle East. | ||
| ] in ].]] | ] in ].]] | ||
| Middle East is home to many people who follow faiths besides Islam. Most notable among them are the churches of ], ]s and other adherents of ], ], ] and other Catholics of the Eastern Rites as well as the Roman Rite, ], ], and various ]. | |||
| In many cases, however, Muslims and non-Muslims in |
In many cases, however, Muslims and non-Muslims in the Middle East will share characteristics, whether it is the prohibition against ] ordained by both ] and ] dietary restrictions, a preference for the beverage widely known elsewhere as "]", or knowledge of how to conduct business in a crowded ] without being cheated. As coexistence, rather than conflict, has been the norm between people in the Middle East throughout much of history, it is a place where people with different beliefs often share the same traditions. | ||
| ==Points of etiquette== | ==Points of etiquette== | ||
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Although the Middle East is a large expanse of geography with a variety of customs, noting the following points of etiquette can be useful when dealing with people around the world who have been raised according to the traditions of the Middle East or, in some cases, Muslim societies elsewhere. | ||
| *Conducting business effectively in a souk or ] requires an understanding of how to ] like the locals. This is an art requiring participants to be appropriately aggressive, keen to how much should be offered at a given point in a transaction, etc. | *Conducting business effectively in a souk or ] requires an understanding of how to ] like the locals. This is an art requiring participants to be appropriately aggressive, keen to how much should be offered at a given point in a transaction, etc. | ||
| *The ] of one's personal attire is of great concern to many in |
*The ] of one's personal attire is of great concern to many in the Middle East, although the parameters of this modesty vary. In ], for example, many families expect all female members to wear a ] or ] while even men and women visiting from other cultures should wear very non-revealing clothes to avoid harsh confrontation. In another example, males and females in shorts, skimpy t-shirts or other "immodest" clothes might find themselves roughly evicted from a variety of places, especially holy sites (be they tended by Muslims, Jews or Christians). Get specific guidelines from locals when possible. | ||
| ] wears a ], a variety of ] popular throughout |
] wears a ], a variety of ] popular throughout the Middle East.]] | ||
| *Regarding head attire specifically, the etiquette at many Muslim holy sites requires that a ] or some other modest head covering be worn. For women this might be a ] and for men it might be a ], ], or ]. A ] or other head covering is expected for men in ]s and other places where Jews pray. Orthodox Christian sites might require the removal of hats by men but will expect women to cover their hair with a ] or ]. | *Regarding head attire specifically, the etiquette at many Muslim holy sites requires that a ] or some other modest head covering be worn. For women this might be a ] and for men it might be a ], ], or ]. A ] or other head covering is expected for men in ]s and other places where Jews pray. Orthodox Christian sites might require the removal of hats by men but will expect women to cover their hair with a ] or ]. | ||
| *Among Muslims, the left hand is reserved for bodily hygiene and considered unclean. Thus, the right hand should be used for eating. Shaking hands or handing over an item with one's left hand is an insult.<ref name="airman/0406"></ref> | *Among Muslims, the left hand is reserved for bodily hygiene and considered unclean. Thus, the right hand should be used for eating. Shaking hands or handing over an item with one's left hand is an insult.<ref name="airman/0406"></ref> | ||
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| *In many cases, people of the same gender holding hands while walking is considered an ordinary display of friendship without romantic connotations.<ref name="1,2122,,00"></ref> | *In many cases, people of the same gender holding hands while walking is considered an ordinary display of friendship without romantic connotations.<ref name="1,2122,,00"></ref> | ||
| *In a related point, many people in |
*In a related point, many people in Middle East claim a more modest area of ] than that which is usual elsewhere. Accordingly, it can seem rude for an individual to step away when another individual is stepping closer.<ref name="AR2006090701067">, Budget Travel</ref> | ||
| *Special respect is paid to older people in many circumstances. This can include standing when older people enter a room, always greeting older people before others present (even if they are better known to you), standing when speaking to one’s elders and serving older people first at a meal table. <ref name="airman/0406"/> | *Special respect is paid to older people in many circumstances. This can include standing when older people enter a room, always greeting older people before others present (even if they are better known to you), standing when speaking to one’s elders and serving older people first at a meal table. <ref name="airman/0406"/> | ||
| ] as “]”, grinding fresh-roasted ]s to a fine powder, dissolving ] and carefully regulating the heat to produce a result that meets exacting standards.]] | ] as “]”, grinding fresh-roasted ]s to a fine powder, dissolving ] and carefully regulating the heat to produce a result that meets exacting standards.]] | ||
| *Many people throughout |
*Many people throughout the Middle East, especially Arabs, take great pride in shows of ], never failing to at least serve ] and a snack such as ] but preferring to present guests with a lavish choice of expensive delicacies in abundance. To refuse such hospitality can cause offense. | ||
| *In some areas in |
*In some areas in the Middle East, it is common for people to take their food from a common plate in the center of the table. Rather than employing ]s or ]s, people may scoop up ] and other foodstuff with ]. | ||
| *In many Middle Eastern countries, grouping the thumb and fingers together, and shaking it up and down, fingers pointing upwards, indicates "wait". | *In many Middle Eastern countries, grouping the thumb and fingers together, and shaking it up and down, fingers pointing upwards, indicates "wait". | ||
| *In Iran, the "]" gesture is considered an offensive insult<ref name="airman/0406"/> | *In Iran, the "]" gesture is considered an offensive insult<ref name="airman/0406"/> | ||
| *Displaying the sole of one's foot or touching somebody with one's shoe is often considered rude. In some circumstances, shoes should be removed before entering a living room.<ref> Part II, USDOJ</ref> | *Displaying the sole of one's foot or touching somebody with one's shoe is often considered rude. In some circumstances, shoes should be removed before entering a living room.<ref> Part II, USDOJ</ref> | ||
| *Many in |
*Many in the Middle East do not separate professional and personal life. Doing business revolves much more around personal relationships, family ties, trust and honour. There is a tendency to prioritize personal matters above all else. It is therefore crucial that business relationships are built on mutual friendship and trust.<ref name="kwint"></ref> | ||
| *Responding to an anger or seriousness with light laughter or a smile is common. This must not be seen as an indication that the other person is not taking you or the situation seriously. | *Responding to an anger or seriousness with light laughter or a smile is common. This must not be seen as an indication that the other person is not taking you or the situation seriously. | ||
| *A common custom in Iranian culture is 'tarof' (or ]) which can be translated as 'offering'. It is common for a person not to accept an offering (food, beverages etc.) the first or possibly second time, instead taking up the offer the third time. This traditionally implies dignity, self-respect and respect for the host. | *A common custom in Iranian culture is 'tarof' (or ]) which can be translated as 'offering'. It is common for a person not to accept an offering (food, beverages etc.) the first or possibly second time, instead taking up the offer the third time. This traditionally implies dignity, self-respect and respect for the host. | ||
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As expectations regarding good manners differ from person to person and vary according to each situation, no treatise on the rules of etiquette nor any list of faux pas can ever be complete. As the perception of behaviors and actions vary, intercultural competence is essential. However, a lack of knowledge about the customs and expectations of people of the Middle East can make even the best-intentioned person seem rude, foolish, or worse.
Religious sensibilities
Many matters of etiquette in the Middle East are connected to Islam as it is written in the Qur'an and how it has been traditionally understood and practiced throughout the centuries. Prescribed Islamic etiquette is referred to as Adab, and described as "refinement, good manners, morals, ethics, decorum, decency, humaneness and righteousness".
As such, many points discussed in this article are applicable in other regions of the Islamic world. This holds especially true in Muslim majority countries outside Middle East.
Middle East is home to many people who follow faiths besides Islam. Most notable among them are the churches of Eastern Orthodox Christianity, Copts and other adherents of Oriental Orthodoxy, Maronites, Melkites and other Catholics of the Eastern Rites as well as the Roman Rite, Zoroastrians, Bahá'ís, and various Jewish denominations.
In many cases, however, Muslims and non-Muslims in the Middle East will share characteristics, whether it is the prohibition against pork ordained by both Islamic and Jewish dietary restrictions, a preference for the beverage widely known elsewhere as "Turkish coffee", or knowledge of how to conduct business in a crowded souk without being cheated. As coexistence, rather than conflict, has been the norm between people in the Middle East throughout much of history, it is a place where people with different beliefs often share the same traditions.
Points of etiquette
Although the Middle East is a large expanse of geography with a variety of customs, noting the following points of etiquette can be useful when dealing with people around the world who have been raised according to the traditions of the Middle East or, in some cases, Muslim societies elsewhere.
- Conducting business effectively in a souk or bazaar requires an understanding of how to haggle like the locals. This is an art requiring participants to be appropriately aggressive, keen to how much should be offered at a given point in a transaction, etc.
- The modesty of one's personal attire is of great concern to many in the Middle East, although the parameters of this modesty vary. In Saudi Arabia, for example, many families expect all female members to wear a niqab or burqa while even men and women visiting from other cultures should wear very non-revealing clothes to avoid harsh confrontation. In another example, males and females in shorts, skimpy t-shirts or other "immodest" clothes might find themselves roughly evicted from a variety of places, especially holy sites (be they tended by Muslims, Jews or Christians). Get specific guidelines from locals when possible.
- Regarding head attire specifically, the etiquette at many Muslim holy sites requires that a headscarf or some other modest head covering be worn. For women this might be a hijab and for men it might be a taqiyah (cap), turban, or keffiyeh. A yarmulke or other head covering is expected for men in synagogues and other places where Jews pray. Orthodox Christian sites might require the removal of hats by men but will expect women to cover their hair with a kerchief or veil.
- Among Muslims, the left hand is reserved for bodily hygiene and considered unclean. Thus, the right hand should be used for eating. Shaking hands or handing over an item with one's left hand is an insult.
- Public displays of affection between people of the opposite gender, including between married people, are frowned upon everywhere more conservative values hold sway. Public displays of affection include activities as minor as hand-holding.
- In many cases, people of the same gender holding hands while walking is considered an ordinary display of friendship without romantic connotations.
- In a related point, many people in Middle East claim a more modest area of personal space than that which is usual elsewhere. Accordingly, it can seem rude for an individual to step away when another individual is stepping closer.
- Special respect is paid to older people in many circumstances. This can include standing when older people enter a room, always greeting older people before others present (even if they are better known to you), standing when speaking to one’s elders and serving older people first at a meal table.
- Many people throughout the Middle East, especially Arabs, take great pride in shows of hospitality, never failing to at least serve coffee and a snack such as figs but preferring to present guests with a lavish choice of expensive delicacies in abundance. To refuse such hospitality can cause offense.
- In some areas in the Middle East, it is common for people to take their food from a common plate in the center of the table. Rather than employing forks or spoons, people may scoop up hummus and other foodstuff with pita bread.
- In many Middle Eastern countries, grouping the thumb and fingers together, and shaking it up and down, fingers pointing upwards, indicates "wait".
- In Iran, the "thumbs up" gesture is considered an offensive insult
- Displaying the sole of one's foot or touching somebody with one's shoe is often considered rude. In some circumstances, shoes should be removed before entering a living room.
- Many in the Middle East do not separate professional and personal life. Doing business revolves much more around personal relationships, family ties, trust and honour. There is a tendency to prioritize personal matters above all else. It is therefore crucial that business relationships are built on mutual friendship and trust.
- Responding to an anger or seriousness with light laughter or a smile is common. This must not be seen as an indication that the other person is not taking you or the situation seriously.
- A common custom in Iranian culture is 'tarof' (or taarof) which can be translated as 'offering'. It is common for a person not to accept an offering (food, beverages etc.) the first or possibly second time, instead taking up the offer the third time. This traditionally implies dignity, self-respect and respect for the host.
- Positioning yourself so your back is not facing another person is customary in Iran and Iraq.
See also
References
- Firmage, Edwin Brown and Weiss, Bernard G. and Welch, John W. Religion and Law. 1990, page 202-3
- ^ Airman's Quarterly Spring 2006
- Nydell, Margaret (2006), Understanding Arabs: A Guide for Modern Times, Boston, Massachusetts: Intercultural Press, p. p.45, retrieved 2009-05-25
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- "Are You the Ugly American?", Budget Travel
- The First Three to Five Seconds: Understanding Arab and Muslim Americans Part II, USDOJ
- Doing Business in the Middle East