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The cognitive process of reaching a decision.
Problems of Judging
Jesus of Nazareth, during the Sermon on the Mount, said "Judge not, lest ye be not judged."
Judgement affects both the one doing the judging as well as the one being judged.
Effect of judging on the one being judged
While one isolated incidence of judging is easily forgotten, when it happens repetitively, as is very often the case, it can have a huge impact. People tend to respond to how they are repetitively judged, due to emotional distress, becoming more like what people wrongfully accuse them of.
A compelling emotional need for attention can lead a young girl to wearing clothes that will get the needed attention. Sometimes even before the girl has her first sexual encounter she becomes labeled as slut. If it is known that she hasn't had sex, she is called a tease and gets ridiculed for that. It appears to her that society is ridiculing her as if it is wrong not to have sex. The ridicule and accompanying lack of needed attention eventually causes her to break down and have sex in a desperate attempt to find love. The guy, as most guys do, dumps her immediately following that night, because he considers her to be a slut. She tries again, with the same result. Over and over and always the same result. Eventually the sociological rut we as a society have created for her turns her into what we call a slut.
A young black person in a bad neighborhood might often be harassed by the police, as if he is a criminal. This harassment is also judging. The effect of this harassment might cause this young person to over time develop a hatred for society. This person might continue to resist these feelings, and later on, have difficulty finding work. We all have some difficulty finding work, even if this person doesn't have more, the difficulty in resisting the earlier harassment gets more difficult. This person having previously experienced prejudism will now find it difficult not to blame the difficulty in finding work on prejudism, resulting in increased resentment. The result of this person being treated like a criminal is increased likelihood of this person becoming a criminal.
Some try to judge people positively, the idea being that if we treat people good and they are more likely to become good people.
Effect of judging on the one doing the judging
Judging is done very often in dating. Here we find the saying "no one likes a nice guy". It is not because people don't like being around a nice guy or a nice girl. The saying actually refers to the tendency to avoid nice guys or nice girls, not give them a chance. It works equally with both sexes.
The people who we are trying to avoid, are the ones who are better at deceit and trickery. The ones who know how to say what you want to hear. The ones who are not nervous, because for them, there is little to gain, only a one night stand. The ones seeking true love are much more nervous, because it is a huge life changing thing.
After judging and turning away all the good ones, there is the tendency of a person to get lonely and seek out someone for sex, deliberately looking for someone who they could not fall in love with.
In the political spectrum, we often find ourselves choosing between the lesser of two evils. The election process is also a process of judging. Here again, the ones who use trickery and deceit rule. Here again, the old saying applies, no one likes a nice guy.